im really in love with a dominatrix(mistress,what ever you call it).i by myself cant change who she is,but do you think its adequat to have a relationship with her,even when its a danger to my health and well being?
2007-01-28 23:51:57 · 10 answers · asked by darren_nnx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its common for a submissive to fall in love with a Dominatrix(a professional Mistress). However if you are paying a fee or tribute, then you are simply paying to control your scene and she is playing the role you have hired her for. You have complete control, simply walk away if you feel you are in danger.
Lifestyle D/s (domination and submission), is a carefully negotiated relationship between two people who are in complete agreement and consent. Again if this is your situation, then simply return the collar and ask for release of your contract. There is no excuse to ever consider yourself in danger. If you have found yourself in a situation that you cannot get out of, you obviously have computer access and can contact your local community for assistance.
The feeling of danger is sometimes part of the kink, but unless you are involved with someone who isn't who and what she says she is, you should be able to simply pack your bags and go.
If you cannot do any of these things, call the cops and ask for help.
2007-01-29 01:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's a danger to your health then it's not being done right.
Of course, if you're not a submissive, then the relationship isn't going to meet her needs. In which case I would say leave well alone.
Otherwise (if you are a submissive), it's just a matter of defining boundaries and agreeing "safe" words, as required.
2007-01-29 07:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dominatrix's and the like aren't really a treat to your health. They usually know how far to go and when to stop.. I don't really know how good your sex life would be with her if you told her you weren't into that sort of thing.
2007-01-29 07:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mystery Lady H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really is up to you. We can't say for you, because it is your health that you feel is being threatened, and only you know the degree to which it is being threatened.
2007-01-29 07:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by xidaranthed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
daz if u think i am a danger 2 u why didny u just say?i mean are u saying im diseased? i mean 2 air our laundry in public is just not on! u dont have a problem when im doing it 2 u so why do u have a problem now u have 2 learn 2 share me ok? iam going 2 whip ur *** when i get home we will talk about this later ok x
2007-01-29 08:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by dellyboppers 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Be careful, but hey if you love and respect her and the feeling is mutual - good luck to you!
2007-01-29 10:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever floats your boat love!
If you are happy, why worry?
2007-01-29 07:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Janbull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have unresolved issues with your Mother and this conduct is manifesting itself to deal with your guilt.
2007-01-29 09:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are happy cool, if not tell her!
2007-01-29 08:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay safe...play healthy
2007-01-29 07:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋