im dating some one, should he know about my past, and th thingz i did, even if im sure it wont happend ever again !!! or should i wait if it get really serious then i tell him?
2007-01-28 23:05:33 · 7 answers · asked by ashely m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
The past is the past, leave it alone unless he mentions it. Just be honest at that point and tell him there are things he may not want to know. If he says go ahead and tell him, fine. If he says, I'd rather not know...then keep it to yourself...no harm, no foul.
Let him make the choice, if he's interested in you, he'll want to know. If he loves you, he won't care either way.
2007-01-28 23:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that honesty is "almost" always the best way to go....
but.......It would really depend upon what happened.......let me give you an example......if you are dating someone new, and your past consisted of dating multiple men, I don't see a reason to "confess" this. But, if you had a problem with physically hurting people you were in a relationship with, you may want to warn him..(and get help).....it's kind of hard to give advise, with so little information to go on. I would also wonder, if he would here these things from someone else and then feel slighted or embarrased, angry and mad? Some things are better left unsaid, or just plain, none of their business, and some things should be told to your new guy/or gal, depending.
good luck and you can always add more info or send me a message......
peace
2007-01-29 07:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is past. there is good past and and bad past. It all depends from you. Surely, you cannot tell about your sleeping arounds or abortions ( that if you have done those) but if your are a kleptomaniac or were rape, etc. you can tell. You cannot tell me that you are such a blond to blab everything about your past.
Unless your partner do it first , but don't tell everything. People tend to judge a person based on their past. Wise up, my dear.
We all have past and learned from it.
2007-01-29 07:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Fufu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your just dating, what business is it unless your infected with some incurable disease, then it might be good to tell him. As a matter of fact, it's the law...
2007-01-29 07:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i went through something like this when i met my current bf... and yes i have you say you need to tell him if you two are serious.... and explain everything to him...
what i learned from this situation is, i will one day tell my daughter that everything she does.. that you might think no one will know... BUT you will end up telling EVERYTHING to that one person you love more than anything.. so behave! lol.
2007-01-29 07:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Loathing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might know ..it is better that the resource would be you ..and you have to be self confident ..no one is perfect but when you tell it and say i WAS so so so ..it is a credit for you because it shows that you have strong personality and you have really changed ......self criticism is very appreciated ......and if he cares he accept you the way you are if not ..it is better to know in early beginning
2007-01-29 07:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Silent tear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until it is serious.
2007-01-29 07:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋