I was married with this man for 10 years and we did not have any kids. It was actually reason of divorce. I was away for 4 years. During this time he got married with my friend and now they have baby girl. We met couple times..........and now I am pregnant.....
I dont want to ruin his life, but we are in love........ Should I tell my ex that I carry his baby? I am financially good and dont need any help from him.
2007-01-28 22:46:16 · 18 answers · asked by Natalie P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am trying to be honest with everybody. I dont know what to do now to cry or to be happy.........I know it is life
2007-01-28 23:15:32 · update #1
Thank you Rick. I think you understand this situation 100 %.
2007-01-28 23:21:16 · update #2
every child should know there father,, you should definatly tell him I'm sure you're curious to know what his reaction would be. I know you say he's remarried, this is going to be a very difficult time for the two of yous especially the three of yous if he decides to tell his wife, although it'll cause trouble between them these issues can be worked out,
so yes I think you should tell him,It'll then be up to him what he decides to do you shouldnt have to deal with this on your own he is part of this now, and if you dont tell him you may regret it and will be questioning yourself for the rest of your life,,you say you're finacial circumstances are good and if worst comes to worst I'm sure you have alot of people who love you and will support you..
,at the end of it it's really up to you, do what your heart tells you and what you feel is best for the baby.
goodluck hun hope all works out
2007-01-28 23:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by ¸•¨*•.¸AnGeL¸.•*¨•¸ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
strange irony but i guess thats the way life is ....look if u met him a couple of times cause of which u have a baby don t think he s too much in luv wid u r frnd (if u can still call her that) if u have a shot at a family take it if agrees it s good otherwise he s a jerk so u can move on either which way waddya gotta lose a frnd who married u r husband (ex or no ex)
2007-01-28 22:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by gkartik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not tell him and you should move and leave town so that this child should not run into any of their family. How would you two feel if these kids were to meet 20 years down the road and fall in love and then you two have to tell them what awfull messes you have put them in ? god some people kill me they really do cause they dont consider their actions . I would move away if I were you . Never ever tell unless it is medically neccessary . good luck .
2007-01-29 03:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him, not for reasons that concern you and your feelings, but for the respect of their father/child relationship. It is your child's right to be afforded every opportunity to have a relationship with his (or her) father. Now what the father decides to do is up to him, but it is not YOUR choice to make. Love your child enought that you will protect what he deserves, and a child certainly shouldn't be cheated out of a relationship with his father, because you were too busy protecting other peoples inteterests. If the father chooses not to be around, that will lie on his conscience, but at least, your child will know that that is a decsion that had nothing to do with you, and he (or she) will respect you for that.
2007-01-28 23:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in child support and this childs needs to know who it's father is. The father is important in his/her life and he needs to be part of it. He also needs to pay you child support, even if you don't need to money put it in a college fund for the child. The father also needs to know that you are pregnant. Even though he is remarried, doesn't mean he still can not be a father to this child that you are carrying.
2007-01-29 00:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by davidnicolewilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if I was in your situation, I would talk to him about it.
Underline that you don't need financial help, but you wanted him to know, and together decide what role you want him to have in the childs life, as well as how to deal with his wife.
2007-01-28 23:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you really need to tell him. You say you are in love? Do you mean with this man who has a wife and child to care for? It seems to me he is using you, because he can. It's about time you thought of what you are doing, forget the excuses. Give a little thought to the present wife does she really deserve to suffer by your actions.Think about the child you're expecting and what you need to do to protect it from the pain of this situation.
I wonder if he'll still be in love with you when he realises his playtime holds some responsibility and he will need to spread himself between his honourable wife and you.
2007-01-28 23:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children need to know their father. If you are still in love with him and he is still sleeping with you, it's time for him to divorce his current wife and come back to you since the reason he left was children. He needs to be honest with everybody. My wife can't have children, but I would never leave her for any reason.
2007-01-28 22:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm telling him. I bet he would even be happy to know. Brag about it but tell him this will not hinder his relationship with his present wife. Congatulations and take care of the baby and yourself well!!
2007-01-28 22:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Forever Rad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a minimum of he's prepared to guy up and be there so as that section is all stable. earlier each little thing I had a complicated time with the question because of the fact of typos, yet that's ok because of the fact i'm typing with a susceptible mild bulb and that i do this too. yet I have been given the story and so congratulations on your infant and that i wish he attends AA conferences.
2016-11-28 02:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋