Are kids more important than the spouse?

Question

The kids or a child wouldn't be in this world without the spouse...? Uhmm just curious.

Answer 1

My mother always put us kids first and I often wondered why. I asked her once why she didn't put dad ahead of us and she said: 'He's just my husband, you're my children'. Until I had children of my own, I never understood what she meant. This is painful to say, but I would see my husband dead if it meant saving my children. Until you become a parent, you just don't understand that lifeline that you have with your kids. Even when they grow up, that lifeline never breaks. I don't know if it's the same with dads, but as mother's, are kids are our life.

Answer 2

Naturally your kids are very important. But, when they are grown and out on their own you will still have to live many years with your spouse. In my opinion, the spouse should take some precedent over kids - there should be time that spouses spend together without kids, on a date lets say or quiet time together without children being allowed to interfere. A good marriage can last 40-50 years. Kids are involved intimately with that relationship only 20 or so years till they go off and start their own family. Spouses need TLC also.

Answer 3

Let see... are you more important than your children? (sarcasm) The way I see it, your child is a part of you, and just like you wouldn't willing cut off a finger, I would never willingly let anything bad happen to my child. If it came down to my life or theirs, it'd be mine. Now I know the question is about the spouse... if the spouse (not being the child's biological father, or being it) if he/she doesn't think the same way... Then what's to say about the welfare of the child? Your spouse if asked the question should jump in, and say who is more important, decide for them self if they think they are more important than the children. I would never be with a single person who did not put the needs and cares of my children first, because they are innocent, in need of our guidance and protection... whereas a spouse can fend for themselves if need be. So in my opinion, Children Take Tops... my fiance is not the biological father of any of my children, and he knows he's number 2 in my life... and he sees it the same way, that I'm number 2 in his, because children come first.

Answer 4

My take is children. That is the only thing that can change a person for the better. Your children are part of you. I think I could go on if I lost a spouse but the pain of losing a child may be too much.

Answer 5

I am a 14-year old boy faced with this question which is full of dilemma. I have never experienced all those dating kind of things, BUT I have experienced love towards a classmate of mine. She is the most beautiful person I have ever seen and would expect to see. At this particular point of time, I believe that I could never love anyone more than I love her.

Answer 6

No. Spouse has to be important, love cant be taught to kids if the importance of the spouse isnt there but then there will be no love

Answer 7

My kids are more important to me than anything. If I had to choose between them and my husband, I would drop him in a heartbeat without a second thought.

Answer 8

Yes. By all means. You can always replace your spouse

Answer 9

I love my kids first and foremost but the love for the spouse has to come first.

If i had one that is.

Answer 10

kids first
we only have them for 18 yrs then they are gone and hopefully we have made them productive ppl in society..

i will still have my love when the money moochen food hoggen kids are gone
it was our time before kids and it will be our time again after them