I have some problems in my sexuallity trend .really i think i am gay,but i dont want to belive it,what shoud i do.....?I m very prosperous both in my education and my job , but this secret bother me so much....what should i do?which doctor should i refer?can i cure my trends with drug?help me please.
2007-01-28 21:51:56 · 12 answers · asked by gentellman1983 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sexual response is very complex. The secret fact few are willing to admit is everyone is capable of a sexual response with the right person of their own sex. Most people learn to favor who they choose to like more. Experiment all you want, but delay defining yourself so narrowly as to stick a label on your forehead. A sex life is a personal secret unless one makes a living doing people.
2007-02-03 05:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bless you you do have a problem ,but its ok ,you need firstly to be yourself ,really make sure what you are feeling is you and not just a fad that you are going through ,you could ask a doctor but i cant see how he can help as this is feelings and not a illness ,,,,but what ever you find out about yourself you shouldnt be ashamed ,its all down to hormones ,,,other than that try hanging out with the boys and getting along with girls then try a gay bar see how you feel ,,,watch what is going on around you ,and ask yourself ,,,is this really how you feel ,,,if it is then if you hide this feeling you will never enjoy life ,and will never find true love or affection ,there are many reasons why people are gay ,,,you definatly are not alone with this ,,we all at some time wounder what it is we are feeling ,but only you really know yourself ,your thoughts and feelings ,,no drug is going to make you feel any differently if this is the true you ,,,you are what you are ,,,never mind what friends and family think ,this is your life and you need to be happy as much as the next person ,,,but study yourself ,,,give yourself time ,mix with both ,this is the way to learn who you are and what you really want from life ,,,,you should live your life to be happy ,,but what ever you do remember this will be your life ,people will either be with you or against you ,,,,,true friends will stand by you no matter what ,,,but always be truthfull to yourself ,,,you make your own life ,,,so its worth thinking seriously about,,take time to get it right ,,,only you can find the answere,,i wish you well,,,what ever you decide,good luck
2007-02-03 13:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMM...why, first of all, is it a problem. I know it is not normal, but neither is being left handed. It's just different. I don't believe you can cure your trends with drugs and most doctors are educated enough to know that they cannot change your behavior either. Try therapy. You can continue to be prosperous in your education and profession and maybe add love life to that list if you accept and embrace who you are and who you want to love.....good luck and try not to change. Be safe....good luck again
2007-02-03 04:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by C Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you expect to see a doctor about your sexual desires. That's strange. Your inclinations to be attracted to males is in your mind, and may be an integral part of who you are. No medicines for that. Your guilt or concerns about the issue are derivative from your upbringing and your social status--being gay is still not socially acceptable, and probably not within your own family. But if you are physically and emotionally attracted to men and women, you are bisexual. If you have no attraction to women, you are gay. Both are fine, and accepting what you really are is important to your overall wellbeing.
2007-01-29 13:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be gay. If you are, it's probably better if you just accept yourself as you are. If you have a difficult time accepting it, like if it's in conflict with your religion or something, maybe your doctor can recommend a therapist--nobody should make you accept it if you really don't want to. Some people have gay feelings at one time in their lives and then they don't have them again. My brother tried out gay sex when he was young and said he was just "experimenting"--now he's married with two kids and I don't think he has any gay feelings any more. Everybody's different, and that's okay.
2007-02-06 01:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by majnun99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First preservation is 2 thy self in the process be real w/yourself if u feel that way then get out the closet and explore it for minute. If u are bi-sexual then pick one one and live the one u wanna be.2 each his /or her own i don't care i see no color and if u are gay then be what makes u happy ,i judge no one and i don't know ya so i can't knock ya even though others might.
2007-02-06 01:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by thelilsxysmoothone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be gay. Or, you might be bi.
I am bi too. I grew up in a religious family. I wanted to marry and have kids.
You need to accept reality and stop worrying about it. Either you're gay or bi. So what? Enjoy sex with whomever. Stop worrying about what people will think of you. Many "str8" men live secretely and privately but enjoy gay porn and masturbation. You could even go to sex clubs or porn theaters and have a safe, healthy lifestyle, without committing to the "gay life".
It's ok. You're one of millions of people who go through the same issues. You are normal.
2007-02-02 07:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Playing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the state of your mind. make your choice and get on with it. there is no drug or doctor for things like that because it is not abnormality, just a choice. if you start believing that you are gay then you are one. the body usually follows what the mind dictates.
2007-01-29 08:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by ARNIWAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to figure it out and just live your life. Your are probably a role model to most of your friends or family. I say don't try to fit in be yourself and in the immortal words of Bernie Mac "if people don't like you for who you are **** 'EM **** 'EM, **** up against the wall with handcuffs on.
2007-02-06 02:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by liemus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not gay - you might just happen to like sex with men...follow your feelings - life is too short!!
2007-02-05 09:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋