well my boyfriend and i had sex he dumped me and has got a new girlfriend know i am pregnant and i am only 14 i was with this boy for 4and a half years he was so adorable and nice to me until we had sex then he started to get a bit funny then he dumped me know i am six months pregnant and i have told my parents but i dont know if i should go and tell his new girlfriend they have been goin out for 2years and i dont want to ruin their relation ship so should i go there and upset her and tell her what he did to me or should i just say leave it i dont mind him going out with her i just dont want her to get hurt should i tell her what her boyfriend did to me when i went out with him or should i leave it untill he gets her pregnant and leaves her.he knows that i am pregnant and he is sixteen and he always goes out with younger girls and i dont know what to do i am so confused plz help me!!!!!
2007-01-28 21:26:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
right now you need to concentrate on yourself and your baby. If your worried about being a mum then why not call your midwife and doctor for advice, they will be able to put you intouch with groups and places that can offer support to teeenage mums. Your boyfriend does have a responsiblity as the dad of your baby and so if he is working then you will need to see about him paying money for the baby once he or she is born, also if he is on benefits you can contact the csa and they will arrange for him to pay 5 pound per week to you for the baby once you have registered the birth. Being a mummy is hard work, dont be scared to ask for help but please see about contraception once your baby is born as your very young and shouldnt have another baby until your with someone who loves and cares for you and until your working with a house and enough stability to look after and support your child. Good luck and please stick in at school aswell so you can get a job and give your baby a good life.
2007-01-29 01:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressing for a start, how is that helping you! I am afraid to say but the situation is a little bit out of your control now and there is not a lot you can do about it. Also it sounds like this guy was cheating on you with her, so I wouldn't be too arsed about it as she probably knew about you anyway. Maybe the best thing to do is to send her a text or ask a friend to talk to her for you as she might think you are trying to break them up if you do it yourself. I would also wait until after the baby is born as you don't want any hassle from your ex whilst you are still pregnant. In the long run I would do what you need to do then forget about him. My ex left me pregnant at 17 and was not bothered in the slightest, so now I am not bothered with him and my baby is much better for it
2007-01-30 08:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oknlet me get this right...
You are 14 and have been dating this guys since you were 9 1/2 from when he was 11 1/2
You are pregnant for 6 months and he was two timing you for a year and a half whilst he was dating you.
Slept with you behind his other girlfriends back 1 year and a half after they started dating.
Guy sounds like a right tosser.
However...
why on earth did you not say anything sooner?
Not sure what the deal is with abortions after 24 weeks. May be too late.
But no idea how you will cope.
www.childline.org.uk is more qualified to deal with this
2007-01-29 12:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should not even of had a serious boyfriend at 14, never mind for 4 years. You are too young. Now you are pregnant? Go to your parents! Stay away from the ex-boyfriend. don't think the new girl is not aware of his past with you. YOU need to take care of YOU. You do not need to tell anybody anything. Let them worry about themselves. RUN to your parents, they will help you, Good Luck.
2007-02-01 19:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no point in telling his new girlfriend.....unless it is a warning to be sure that she is on birth control if she is going to be sexually active.
This boy has some serious growing up that he needs to do. You are a child with child. I sincerely hope that your parents are supportive of you and you have made some serious thought about "what next". What about HIS parents? This is also their grandchild that you are carrying!
Just because you have sex and can get pregnant, does not make you good parent material. Good luck, you have a very tough road ahead. Be sure you are getting good prenatal care!
2007-01-29 09:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you are confused. You don't want to go and tell her what happened to you if it's just being bitchy but you want to protect her from suffering as you have. I think you should trust your motives as being honourable. If you have an opportunity to contact her tell her what happened to you, without making reference to her relationship, and warn her if she chooses to have sex, with anybody, that she should use contraception. You will be taking the risk that she might think you are just being bitchy because you resent their relationship but even if you are, if you can prevent another unplanned pregnancy in a very young girl then you should try. Ask yourself, how would you feel if she did get pregnant and he dumped her. Maybe it would be best to write to her, you can be objective and avoid getting emotional. Your own health is vitally important at this stage.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 14:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pregnant girl,
C what happens when u have sex out of wedlock?
Legally u r a minor ( 14 years Old) and having sex with a minor
whether with or withot ur consent is Rape !! Report ur boyfriend to the authorities and let him face the music..
He is an irresponsible SOB and he needs to be taught a lesson not to screw around and leave when a girl gets pregnant.
COG
2007-01-29 15:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by Child of God 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you use the words, "what he did to me". as if you just happend along and oops...i feel on him and got pregnant.
wake up honey, you BOTH did what you did. period. he is no more at fault for your situation then you are.
he's a JERK for dumping you that's for sure. and if i were your parents i'd make darn sure that his parents were aware of what had happened so they could keep better tabs on their son.
telling this new girlfriend solves nothing. it's none of her business, and it's none of your business who your ex-boyfriend dates from now on. hopefully she is smart enough to keep her knickers on, or at least uses protection...since your ex-boyfriend is too stupid to wrap it up.
you have BIGGER things to worry about right now hon. you've got a little life that is fixing to come into your world and it will change your life forever! the last thing on your mind should be the new girlfriend.
the father of this baby is a stupid kid. who did a stupid thing, and when he has a job...or reaches 18 yrs old. you can have the courts serve him with child support papers to help raise his child ( if you are keeping the baby).
it sounds like your not over the ex. you need to forget about him. he's a user. he's not a good boy. if he was..he'd at least be there as the father.
2007-01-29 10:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to wear a good condom when they have sex. Tell her that you are pregnant and he is the father. When you have the baby turn him into the child's support office and make him pay child's support. If he doesn't think the baby is his get a DNA test done. If he gets behind on child's support the will lock him up for a couple of days.
2007-02-01 22:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't approach his gf , because it's got nothing to do with her, she's not the one that's gonna pay for the child welfair, and she's not gonna believe you because of the jealousy. This is between you and your ex and it's not her problem.
You should go find your ex or better yet his parents. I'm sorry to say this, but if he's mature enough to do the deed, he is the one responsible, go to child welfare and ask him to do a DNA test, so he can't get away from being a dead beat dad.
2007-01-29 11:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋