This person was my boyfriend at one point but we are just friends now. We sorta live together but I still have feelings for him. Nothing will ever happen as far as I know. He is extremely religous and can't get past his thought that Homosexuality is wrong. We still behave like boyfriends but without the sex. He treats me very good and is helping me with my education. BUT I feel I can't JUST be his friend but I don't have the guts to leave.
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2007-01-28 21:20:19 · 16 answers · asked by edgar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to move out and away from him--being in constant contact, you will never get over him
2007-01-28 21:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is that as hard as it seems, there is really only one way. I think that the only way is to try and find yourself another place to stay as you will never be able to deal with this issue appropriately if you stay there. Taking time to sort out your things is always hard, but it is next to impossible to deal with if you stay the way you are.. Sometimes when we love someone, we need to let them go, and if they come back, then you'll know. If he does not, at least you will have started on your healing process..Just know that you are not alone, their actually does have good genuine people out there who care...
Hope that I could help, and if not, I will wish you all the best LOVE REALLY DOES HURT.
Also know that by putting ourselves in a situation of pain, we are the ones who are hurting ourselves... It's all in the UN-intentional expectation that maybe we have, but really, how much of that can you handle??? I really do care..
Hope I did not come across the wrong way...TAKE CARE
2007-02-05 19:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess that you could find another place to live if you wanted to...and that is what you should do. But you probably wont. If he is paying for your education you are probably sticking around for more than just love, and that is your first mistake. I'm a lesbian, and why for any reason would you want to be with or around someone who thinks that your lifestyle is a sin? And why would your limit your happiness by waiting around for an unattainable guy, when you could be with someone who loves you back, and you could actually get laid? You need to move out, and cut all ties...and that includes monitary. Live your own life.
2007-02-04 19:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are living with him, it will be very hard for you to get over him.....you said he treats you well and is also helping you with school, is that the reason you are having a hard time moving....I mean, maybe he does love you, but can't get over the fact that he is a homosexual, give him time it that is what it is, and maybe he will accept himself for who he is, and things can get back to normal....it may take awhile,but if you have the patience and he is not kicking you out, there is a chance.
2007-01-29 05:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just my opinion
start focusing on your studies. don't dwell so much on things you have no control.
don't think so much on the sex part. be happy that your still with him. you can't force him to have sex with you like before.
its your choice to stay with him, so learn to deal with the consequences. if it means living every day with the pain eating away at your heart, so be it.
but always remember that it has always been your choice. you can end the heartaches, as i have said, its your choice,
2007-02-06 02:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by biboy1437 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move out and move on
2007-02-05 21:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should start packing ur bags and leave! the sooner the better. there's no use to holding on to someone who doesn't love you anymore.
goodluck!
2007-02-06 01:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Margaret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try real hard to find another place to live.
2007-01-29 05:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another place to leave...1
2 from your new place, listen more to what he has to say. than what you want to do.
2007-02-06 03:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by as_a_youngthief_in_da_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not healthy. someone needs to leave. when it's always in your face you do not get time to heal
2007-02-05 22:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋