Women: can one ever be 100% faithfull?

Question

I am not saying this about all women, but seems like everyone i talk to, they couldnt be faithfull 100% if they tried.

I have a friend who's cheated on nearly everyone she's dated, even cheated on her husband and admited it.

Now he has cheated on her admitted it, she forgave him, and now he's probably doing it again (evidence seems to point towards it).

But yet instead of trying to fix a broken marriage (no doubt) she's sleeping with anyone she can get her hands on... oh she tries to make some excuse of it but i know she is.

My question is this.

Is there a sane woman left on this planet?

I got cheated on on the day i fricking praposed to a woman. She said she would marry me, and that night she sleeps with a guy, and possible a girl.

that destroyed my trust in most women. Since i've had bad relationships, and i dont think i have any trust anymore.

Now i see this **** and it pisses me off.

Answer 1

I've been 100% faithful in the three years I've been married and in the three years before that when we were dating. I love my husband and at this point in my life, I have NO intention of ever cheating for MANY reasons - I respect him, I love him, I don't have the urge to cheat, I made a promise to him, I have a child with him, I am committed to our marriage, etc.
I know many other women that have never cheated.
You are looking in the wrong places...there are honest women out there.

Answer 2

I don't think women have the monopoly on cheating - it takes two to tango. My husband gave me pretty much the lamest proposal on earth, and then called the woman he was having an affair with 5 minutes later. It just happens, and it sucks. I have never, and would never cheat on my husband. Its hard to find a good person who will be faithful to you because a lot of people think sex is casual, and that its okay to sleep with anyone willing. It makes me angry too because they don't understand that it destroys lives. Really though theres not much you can do except be a good person, and hope to find someone else that is also.

Answer 3

I've never cheated. I think it's pointless and whorish. When I did date, I didn't date exclusively and that was a mutual agreement, so it's not like I was playing anyone. It was just for fun until I found who I was looking for. I found him and now, I stay monogamous. I don't think I could go out and have loveless sex anymore even though it was so fun at the time, so of course, I don't regret the fun I've had. I just appreciate something different now. Something like "it was fun while it lasted, but I'm glad it's over." I'm not sure I'm what would be considered 'sane' and certainly not innocent and virginal if that's what you're looking for, but I think I have a healthy veiw of sexuality and a commitment to monogamy.

Answer 4

if this gives you any hope... i have been 100% faithful so far... every time i have gotten the urge to cheat on a boyfriend, and it wouldn't go away, i broke up with him because clearly i was not good relationship material or my heart wasn't in it. i have broken some hearts, but that is better than being dishonest.

i can't predict the future, i must say, but i have made a serious promise to myself to never be unfaithful. i have been cheated on by at least three guys, and i know how painful it can be.

i think that people generally end up with the people they deserve... manipulators with manipulators, liars with liars, shallow people with other shallow people, and so on. so if you have been faithful and promise to always be faithful, you will probably end up with a woman who deserves you, and vice versa.

Answer 5

Well let me say this, I am not saying I am perfect by any means, but my husband is in Iraq and has been since oct 06. I had an offer to be with someone else I refused it. Now it just seems it was so clear so simple... I love my man, I am in love with him and there is no way in h*** I'd cheat on him. If someone cheats and betrays they do not love you! I dont care who disagrees, this is my opinion and no one can change my mind about it. Good luck man.

Answer 6

I believe there are good women out there. I'm 100% faithful to my husband and I have a friend who is 100% faithful to hers. I have another friend who has been with the same man for 7 years, not married, and is 100% faithful to him. So, yes, I do believe there are.

Answer 7

Yeah it's extremely hard to find anyone that will stay faithful in this day and age. Not all women cheat if they're secure and you don't give them reason to. I think you just need to find a girl who has good morals and values. Good luck on finding her, it's not going to be easy with all these skanky whorish women running around everywhere!

Answer 8

Yes they sure can if they choose to be and if they truley love their husbands.... Men can be too... It is all about choices here..... Also with God in the center of your life and marriage this cuts way down on wanting to cheat and be unfaithful as well.

Answer 9

I've never cheated on my fiance. And he lives 4 thousand miles away from me and I only get to see him once a year. But I've never been tempted and I've never wanted to cheat on him. I love him more than life itself and nothing could ever lead me astray. You just have to find the right girl.

Answer 10

There is no easy answer to this.

Women and men this age are both very demanding...some people even give excuses like "I cheated because the baby wouldn't be strong enough".
The common ground is genetically programming
A) Women naturally are programmed to find men with high testasterone (as shown in aggressive facial features: protruding jawlines and such) to impregnate themselves with...and stay with "nice" men who aren't "cute enough" to be likely to have many options of cheating to be "faithful/supportive" to them and their kids
B) Meanwhile men are programmed to find as many women as possible to "spread their dominence/genes"

The solution for you, as the man, is to let women know you ARE as tough as any tougher looking guy....and thus avoid being cheated on with a "stronger guy".
Be competitive, in sports/shape and words...don't get caught sucking up to a woman or acting like she's doing you a favor by giving you sex. Make it obvious when you're being kind/loyal it's not because you don't have other options, but because you love her.
Don't ever ask a woman on a date, say you are already going somewhere and wait for her to come. If you ask her you make it sound like she's doing you a favor and you aren't strong enough (or experienced enough) to have other options.
Also be adventurous sexually, different places, positions, spontenuity, long sessions/high endurance...make her realize you are at least nearly as good and strong as anyone could possibly be.

Women are sexually attracted to different people then they find dependable. Contrary to "what you mother told you", your first goal is to be sexually attractive, your second is to be loyal....both are good but only if thought of in that order.

Yes there are sane women, but only ones who have found guys who
A) for the first few months, have made it obvious they can be "aggressive and attractive"
B) have made it obvious they can be loyal but, if pushed around, have the right to immediately choose other options

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Hence WHY MARRIAGE IS FEARED by so many people (and rightfully so)...it implies that you have to, by law, do B before you do A....and thus set yourself up to be the dedicate "loyal guy" while your wife goes to find "better genes". When you proposed, it may have come across as your telling her "I'm volunteering to be your backup and now will always be there, by law, no matter what you do (including cheating)"

IF YOU FIND A WOMAN WHO, for example, calls your name in bed and you don't cheat on her but she but STILL CHEATS...that means she's INSECURE and simply "LIKES THE FEEL OF POPULARITY cheating gives". This has nothing to do with genetics and is a personallity issue: AVOID WOMEN LIKE THAT AT ALL COSTS.

I personally have a girlfriend who has never cheated on me (though has on past boyfriends) and I've told her I will never marry and, due much to my efforts in physical shape and controlled/mutual assertiveness (in contrast to abusiveness, calling her inferior) she has accepted that.