2007-01-28 20:58:35 · 17 answers · asked by vikas 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When asked I'll answer. I don't strut, like a flaming queen, but nor will I suffer people making jokes about LGBTQ.
It's very much a personal choice and the situation/environment you find yourself in as to whether or not you declare your sexual orientation.
2007-01-28 22:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends...
if u have real friends that will be there 4 u when ever u want them it's ok....to say i am L/G/B/T....
if your family agrees with it it's also ok...they must love u no matter what....
but if u don't have a family that will support u and friends that will never be there 4 u u better stay in then out...
it's very important the way u say it,, your family will realize that this is who u are and hopefully they will love u the same as before they knew....friends come and go so u don't worry about that...
the most important thing is 4 u to be happy...
respect 4 LGBT
see ya around
2007-01-29 11:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a personal choice and not one you should run into without much thought.
Ask yourself a few questions. These questions are for fully "out":
1) are you going to lose some of your friends and, if you answered yes, are they true friends?
2) are you going to face physical violence and, yes, that occurs. How much physical violence depends upon your location. Can you defend yourself if (no, when) it occurs.
3) how is your family going to handle it and, if poorly, can you handle their reaction? It could get as bad as disowning.
4) can you face mocking and ridicule?
5) are you looking for a relationship? If you are, you are going to have to be "out" to some degree.
6) is there a large homosexual community where you live? That would make coming "out" much easier.
That is for fully "out".
If you decide to tell just a few, are they trustworthy? If you answered "yes", ask it again... are they trustworthy? If you have decided to not come fully "out" but tell a few friends, if they tell a few, you ARE fully "out" whether you wish it or not.
I do not keep my orientation silent. I do not make a production of it. Other than my *ss long hair seeming to scream "f*ggot" (I am bi, not gay) I am not readily identifiable by looks or mannerisms. I do not advertise my sexuality but I do not hide it. I have faced verbal harrassment and things tossed at me, but nothing serious. Being 6'2" and trained in the Martial Arts suggests to most that bothering me is inadvisable.
Another thing to take into consideration is, in order to stay "in the closet" are you having to stifle yourself? If so, if you can handle the things I mentioned above, I would suggest coming "out".
End all: are you willing to take hell for what you believe? If you do come out in most cities you ARE going to face hell.
Once you have made the decision to come "out" you cannot unmake it.
If you do come out all the way, develop a thick hide and do it quickly. I would suggest some martial arts training as well.
Do not make the decision quickly.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-29 07:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lived both ways and I find that living out is much better. There are times still at work when I'm not in the mood for a discussion about it so I don't tell, and I feel bad about it.
2007-01-29 05:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does depend on the circumstances, but it's never a good thing to have to hide yourself or who you are. I'd say just roll with things and express yourself however seems natural for you.
2007-01-29 05:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by cali haze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd think its better to express it.. but ya dont have to be obnioxious about it (some people sometimes feel the need to tell everyone it seems) I mean really does the bag boy at the grocery store really need to know?
ADDENDUM: I must admit though.. I hate the term "GAY".. it really screws up that xmas song "don we now our gay apparel"
2007-01-29 05:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am just me.I express myself.Not my "orientation".I am open and honest about myself.But my sexuality has very little to do with my overall personality.And my personality is how I express myself.
2007-01-29 05:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That totally depends on your circumstances. I find it better to speak out. My girlfriend, however, has very good reasons for staying in the closet.
2007-01-29 05:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not be ashamed of being "gay". Express your feelings and enjoy life to the fullest. Play it safe.
2007-01-29 15:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by beachguy_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if you actually feel comftorable telling the person. either way you will in some time or another will come out of the closet. and wil it really matter
2007-01-29 05:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by el arracadas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋