I have a really big Problem. I am a Black female but i on;y have one Black female Friend and thats my sister!! I Have a really hard time bonding with other black Females. I am a really Friendly person and i always have a smile on my face. I just moved to Auguasta, GA and it seem like this problem has gotten Worse the Black girls i do come in contact with I smile and Greet them but they look at me Crazy like WTF did she say.. This just started bothering me because now i go to an all black college and my room mates call me "White Girl". and to make matters worst i am a really Dark Toned Black Girl , I really don't want to change my image , and the way i talk because that would be just being fake and thats not me. Could u tell me how i can get out of this and how could i make more Black Female friends?
2007-01-28 20:10:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
They're calling you white girl because of how you talk/act?? They need to get a life. I can only imagine what it's like for you at the moment, because instead of dealing with just a handful of Black women who might think this way you're dealing with a whole campus of Black women who might think this way. It's very sad but true that people of all races seem to have their own prejudices within their race. Like this whole acting white or Black thing. Stupid stupid stupid.
You should not have to live in an environment where you are harassed for being true to yourself. Have you talked with your RA about this? How about your Residence Director? They would have some ideas for you to make your living situation better at least. And if they don't help you then I'd suggest finding new roomies to move in with. What they're doing shouldn't be tolerated by the school.
In order to make new friends I'd take a look at some of the student groups that are on campus. Find an activity that you like doing and join the group. This way you'll be around people who have similar interests. It will become the common ground you can build a friendship on, instead of the common ground being "acting Black."
Don't change just because other people want you to, okay? If they realize that you are comfortable being who you are then they'll have less crap to say about you. And you can be yourself and find friends at the same time. Just keep trying to find that common ground with people. Some interest, or music, or maybe a class you're both taking that you love.
Good luck, hon! Things will even out. College is such a fun time and I know you'll find a group of Black female friends that you're comfortable with.
2007-01-28 21:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***This is coming from another young black woman:DONT TRIP OFF THEM. Anyone who can be mean & dislike someone who is truly a friendly and sweet person is nothing but a hater & you dont even need any of the hater drama in your life. Trust me. I went through a phase in highschool (my freshmen & soph yr in 98 & 99) where i wanted to make a lot of blck female frenz but the majority of them were calling me stuck up, lame, blah blah blah. Until i started dating the co-captain of the basketball team THEN they all wanted to jock me, call me, invite me to their parties. I was like HELL NO. Now that u see that just because im not ghetto doesnt mean i cant relate to you & be a good friend to you...now you wanna be my friend cuz im with the "star b-ball player". I wasnt' even trying to play myself like that & have them use me. I maintained my classiness, my sophisitication, and i was still VERY friendly. People mock what they cant be. So you should continue to be yourself and dont try to please ANYONE. If they cant accept you and befriend you for the lovely person it seems you are.....***** em :-)
2007-01-29 03:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what screw those people who give you crap. Does it really matter what they think anyway? You have to be urself and if other people don't like it well you know not wast your time on them, so what if you cant make friends with the same race, maybe you just haven't found the right person to hang with.
If you want to have just white friends, that doesnt matter.
It would be like me just have black friends... it doesnt matter
It shouldnt bother you, be yourself
And just it ignore those who cant mind there own business
2007-01-28 21:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋