How do you tell the woman you love that she has got too heavy to go on top to make love to me. I feel very uncomfortable in this position now but i dont want to upset her.
Sensible answers please
2007-01-28 20:05:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
be straight but gentle. reassure that you love her and its only because its uncomfortable you don't wish to make love like this. maybe you could encourage her to take up exercise and a health diet to improve your love life.
Try to become more active with her, healty eating that thing. then if it works, you have both become fitter, and she hasnt had her feelings hurt.
my hubby did with me and i lost 4stone and our sex life is wonderful. if you want any further advice email me
good luck
2007-01-28 20:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by tink 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ouch that's a tough one! Well if you are in a stable loving relationship honesty is always the best policy but tact and diplomacy is the safest action. Maybe you could suggest trying a new position? Can you not encourage her to do some exercise with you maybe? You could always invent a cramp and need to change position. You know sometimes us women just need a point in the right direction and if you can word it softly starting with I love you so much and always will but as time has gone by we have changed shape a little and I find this position too uncomfortable to enjoy sex.
I'm sure even if she gets a bit upset in the long run she would rather know then have you laying there not enjoying your intimate moments. Even if you don't want her to lose weight you need to find a position where you can both enjoy sex as that is important for a relationship to last. Good luck.
2007-01-29 04:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
since you are the man, you take comtrol and tell her exactly what position you would like to try, perhaps before the night time even comes. Next tim you sit in a nice sturdy chair and let her ride it that way, she will never know. Also you and her go walking we do not like to gain weight, jion the YMCA together
2007-01-29 07:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her you don't particularly like this position and suggest another that your both more comfortable with.
i wouldn't tell her the full truth as it will upset her and you probably won't have to worry about her going on top ever again as you won't get any for a long time !!
2007-01-29 07:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by daftarseuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only way is to lie !
if u tell the truth shel hate u not want to make love anymor or bcum really paranoid an go on a mad diet or all the above
try talkin her in to different positions try tellin her u want to please her by bein on top hope it goes well good luck
2007-01-29 17:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just encourage her to try different positions, even if you try and tell her in a nice way, she will still be hurt.
2007-01-29 12:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay so your a wimp..start weight lifting..dude teach her how to support her own weight during sex..when I am on top I support my own weight and I am 380..and my partner is maybe 110. I love having her on top..got use your brain a little..
2007-01-29 08:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kingofreportedabuse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont tell her, just suggest weekends out walking or cycling. Try to become more active with her, healty eating that thing. then if it works, you have both become fitter, and she hasnt had her feelings hurt.
2007-01-29 05:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be completly honest with her, and just tell her. suggest you get fit together, take up exercise classes together. She probably knows how you are feeling anyway, and is just waiting for you to say something.
good luck
2007-01-29 04:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is no nice way. Just be sweet and explain the situation.
2007-01-29 08:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋