I've known my boyfriend for close to 3 yrs now. We've been living together since early Feb 2005. We love each other very much and we've even planned to migrate to another country together. The problem is, he has said it once to many times that he does not want to get married and he hates children. I dont know if I care so much about being married or having kids now but I'm afraid that I may want to have a family later in life. I dont want this to end but I dont want to end up regretting either. I am after all already 32 yrs old! Aunt and Uncle Aggies out there...Help!
2007-01-28 19:51:25 · 12 answers · asked by snoringcouchprincess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just go before you regret it
2007-01-28 19:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Thumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old your boyfriend is. If he is much younger than you, this could be the reason why he is thinking along those lines. His thinking might change as he gets older but...
YOU don't have the same span of baby making years that he has. You know him and only you can decide if he really means what he is saying.
If you think he really means it...get out now; so you have time to find the right person to make life and have you children with.
If you stay with this one and manage to persuade him to your way of thinking..then he will always have it over you in future to say..."YOU were the one who wanted all this; so what are you complaining about now?" Then, when things turn really sour, either you will chuck him or he will walk.
By then You would have wasted many years on someone whom your mind had tried to warn you about.
Go with your GUT feelings.
2007-01-28 20:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about leaving him, then you probably should.
I've been with my wife for 6 years, married for 2 1/2 and I have never, ever thought about leaving her, even through the bad times.
If you really want a family, it's time to drop this person and find someone who wants the same thing, as trying to force him or persuade him into it would make you both miserable. If you stay with him, hoping he will change his mind and he doesn't, you lose the chance for a proper family.
2007-01-28 19:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jimwon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only you can follow your heart. But you are also right that you may want a family and marriage later in life and you may already and just in denial. But I would leave it alone for a while and if its meant for you two to be with each other things will come to a compromise.
2007-01-28 20:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by msann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two do really need to talk, just as easily that you may start to crave a family & marriage so might he but it needs talking about sooner rather than later usually women would have had a strong maternal instinct by their 30s so maybe you really arent that bothered but feel panic cos your bf has stated he does not want a family. all the best anyway
2007-01-28 20:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a health risk on the mother and baby's behalf after 35, so if you really think you want to have children, you should start looking for a baby daddy right away!
2007-01-28 19:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that your partner means what he says that he hates and does not want children, than I suggest that you find someone who is more interested in a family life than himself. I don't think that this person is a nice person anyway as we were all kids once.
2007-01-28 20:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Oldies from Country Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is in the question that you wrote mt dear,it looks like you both want different things out of life,speak to your fella and tell him how you feel,if it has to end its best doing it now cause ten years down the line you will regret it,good luck
2007-01-28 22:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you what kids and married you need to sat down and talk to him.i was with my ex for 10 years and he didn`t what kids so i got out and now i have 3 little boys and got marred in 2001
2007-01-28 20:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by leanne w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk as if your young. 32 may not be too old, but maybe you should make your mind up soonish if there is any desire to have a family.
2007-01-28 19:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋