Do good looking people get the rough end of the stick?

Question

I have to prove myself more than others that I'm not just a pretty face.

Read all my other questions if you have to, then judge me.
I don't go around asking for compliments, infact the opposite. I hide an awful lot in life.
If you don't understand why bother to answer.

Answer 1

I understand your question and happen very much to agree with what you have to say ... I think that people just aren't getting your wording.

Yes, its true that many good-looking people are given "breaks" based on the fact that many employers, teachers, etc get a better first impression of someone who is attractive. However, looks are not the extent of an attractive person's qualities.

In many situations, if the cute girl gets the raise or promotion, the rest of a jealous office will say, "She only got that because she's pretty." No one remembers all the hard work that she's put in, or how qualified she is. And sometimes, it feels nice to be recognized for your hard work, not just how well your figure fills out a business suit. And it hurts to be given a handout ("Here, take this because your pretty"), when sometimes you desperately want to be able to compete and prove your worthiness.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, ignore your first answerer she is never happy it seems that all her questions are defensive and negative. That being said you will find that because you are attractive more people will be willing to either help you or take advantage of you. I think it is harder on young females than males. One thing that it sounds to me like you have a problem with is being just a bit naive about some things which makes you vulnerable to those who would take advantage of you because of your looks. Ignore the jealous ones, stay away from the superficial ones, make it a point to use your mind not your looks to get to where ever it is in life that you wish to go. Also, when looking for a boyfriend find one who is strong enough in himself and has some character so that he can appreciate who you are as a whole person of value not just a trophy to be paraded around for his enjoyment. Now quit worrying yourself about this. You will face the jealous and the spiteful simply because you are physically attractive. Take them at face value and be kind even when they are not kind to you. Good luck and have a great life. Also remember that beauty fades easily so don't spend all your efforts on beauty of the outside concentrate on the beauty of the inside too.

Answer 3

I used to be an international model. Now I live in a very small town in the mid-west. I know I am beautiful but tend to play it down a little because in my area everyone thinks they know me but they don't. I have applied for jobs before where the interviewer felt insecure about their looks. I didn't get the jobs because I was "over qualified". We're talking about a farming community here. One gal even asked me if I wouldn't be more comfortable working at the JCPenny! I hate retail work! I wanted to learn to train horses. No job.

Nice looking men will hire men. Dowdy men will not. I think they're afraid of what their wives will say when they see me.

It isn't fair but life isn't fair. Funny thing is, it's given me a complex. I'm afraid to look too pretty when I go to the grocery. No make-up, hair in a pony and jeans and tennis shoes. That's me.

Answer 4

First thing is self-satisfaction and self-esteem that comes with self awareness and confidence.You have to know where do you stand socially and professionally in your circle.Ask questions to yourself about yourself and don't go after proving people about you.Remember it is your life after all and you have to live it the way you like so don't care too much about people what are they thinking about you.
You know you are pretty and that makes you feel proud which is good but pride has to have a limit.You must never be arrogant about your complexion, figure or the way you look and never under-estimate or stereotype other people.Be reasonable towards people who you think are misunderstanding you. Chat with them only if they like to chat with you and don't gossip or talk too much with them.
Start working on your personality.Personality consists of 3 things:
1.Self-Confidence(be more rational)
2.Manners & Ettiqutes(Try to be more polite)
3.Dressing
Groom yourself and again look back at your academic history and start doing somthing benficial or creative that can help yourself if not others.Try to be more analytical, logical and rational when you talk to people.Start off with your family, practice at home and then approach your friends and other people in your circle.
Take care and have fun!

Answer 5

No, they don't get the rough end. Research repeatedly shows that good looks result in favorable impressions and better treatment.

I do understand what you are saying about needing to prove yourself more than others, but when you ARE more than just a pretty face, that is not much of a hardship.

Answer 6

I've never seen in any instance where a "pretty" girl or a "handsome" boy have to work anywhere as hard as a plain looking person.

Yes there are some smart pretty people but when you meet one it is always a surprise.

Good luck to you, because of your last three questions I hope that you are pretty; for your sake!

Answer 7

Several studies have shown that in general looking people do better in life. That they are treated better by their parents, peers, for job promotions etc.

Obviously sometimes it is a two edged sword and some people will make unfair assumptions too.

in the end, i guess we are who we are.

Answer 8

You aren't doing a very good job this is the third one of your questions I've seen flaunting your good looks and how you want to be taken seriously, here's a hint ASK AN ACTUAL THOUGHT PROVOKING QUESTION and quit fishing for compliments.

Answer 9

In my exeperience, yes. Much like you, any other details I stated may seem arrogant or self-righteous to the thousands of other readers. Good question and I respect it. Please educate yourself to and beyond the limits of your ability.