I find it hard to make people see past my looks and see me as a normal person.
Why this barrier?
2007-01-28 19:29:50 · 9 answers · asked by SOL SIREN 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think the 1st answerer is absolutely mistaken. I have been through what you are talking about, and believe it or not - beauty makes it all the more difficult to make out who's genuine and who's not. Well, the problem is with the people. We live in a society where always Brawns win over brains - that, mind you is initially. Of course, in the end, it is the ones who use plain intellect who go forward in life.
As of now, I can only say one thing. That is, don't react when someone compliments you. Give a mild sweet smile, say thank you, I appreciate it and excuse yourself. If they are really understanding and were just saying it casually, they will realise that you are a lot more than skin-deep beauty and will try to get to know you better.
And really, don't try making friends as hard as you currently are. It will not work. Let it be natural. Don't try. And don't you worry, you will get true friends one or the other day. Trust me, you will.
P.S. It will be hard to get the guys to look past your beauty, and also tough to keep the girls from being jealous. Just stay to yourself, be reserved - keep a low profile, only the right people will make their way in the end. But be careful. Beauty can lead to dangerous situations!!! Stay alert and street smart all the time, and don't fall easily for stories, and don't trust anyone too easily. You have to accept what you are born with, but play safe! Good luck! And keep smiling!!! :D
2007-01-28 19:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by DollyBrownEyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I often do too. Even at age 42, I still sometimes get "hit on" by guys who are quite a bit younger than me.
And when the subject of my age comes up, almost everyone says that I look a lot younger.
This is flattering up to a point, but of course at some point I hope that people get to know my character and personality also.
But this is a physical world, and if you're good-looking, people are going to notice. It's the first thing people see about anyone when first meeting, for obvious reasons.
.
2007-01-29 03:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people fall into socialistic views, if you do not fit into the "norm" you are seen as different. You cannot control how people see you, but you can control how people know you! The average person formulates thoughts based on ninety percent visual, and only ten percent audio. Please do not let someone Else's insecurities discourage you. I'm sure you are a beautiful person with a lot to offer! Surround yourself with fiends who appreciate, and see you for YOU!
2007-01-29 03:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Will 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, go without makeup and "plainify" your looks. If a finished look does not seem important to you, you will divert others' attention from your looks.
Remember, you of all people can afford to do that and still BE beautiful !!
You can also work on developing some of the other gifts you undoubtedly have!
2007-01-29 03:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing to be attractive to other people. It has been proven that it most cases attractive people get jobs over other people, they can get better deals on things, better service at bars,restaurants, or clothing stores and in general most people are nicer to them. By being attractive you will definitely have the opportunity to get to know more people romantically and if you have more going for you than looks they will see that. if they choose to ignore it then they are not right for you!!
2007-01-29 03:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by holtindyfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually thats a good thing. It makes it easier to weed out the ingenuine guys and you can always lock in a few loyal suckers to do your bidding.
2007-01-29 03:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your so paranoid that your looks is all they focus on because thats all you think about also, if you are as good looking as you think you are people only focus on looks for a short time than personality will have to come through in order to keep them interested in you, maybe looks is all you have to offer?
2007-01-29 03:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's cause you stuck too much collagen in your lips and people can't see around them; you poor child. God bless you.
2007-01-29 03:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey if u be lookins good den why did u being so stingy?
2007-01-29 03:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by SoulBro4Sho 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋