A neighbour lives about 3 doors away from me. I now and again see him at the bus stop and has, what I'd describe, as a friendly, extravert personality. Each time I see him, he keeps asking me why I'm not married yet and wants to know why at 36 I'm not. I'm a very shy girl and haven't been able to stand up to him. It's come to the stage where I dread going to the bus stop and lately, I've just withdrawn from him and don't even say hello. I think he's got the hint now, but how should I handle it if he starts up again with his nosiness? He's a married man with 3 grown kids from overseas. He believes in arranged marriages.
2007-01-28 19:21:30 · 21 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Im very shy myself so i understand where your coming from. It may be hard but u probally shouldnt be mean about it. You do need to say something to stop him from harassing you all the time about the subject. Try to be confident just for that moment and tell him something like your not interested in being married and you enjoy your single life. If he continues ... its probally best to just ignore him all together... most people would not continously harass you like that... good luck! stand up for yourself... you can do it if you try !
2007-01-28 19:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just being friendly and neighborly maybe trying to pull you out of your shell. Instead of dreading to see him why don't you just tell him you aren't ready, haven't met the right person, whatever the reason and finish with that particular question. Then maybe you could have some other inetelligent conversations and learn something from him as well as him learning something from you instead of just wasting time waiting for the bus. Besides he might just be a good friend to have since he lives close to you and you seem to trust him and according to your other question you are concerned about drug dealers in your neighborhood. A lot of times I read Askers other questions just to get a feel for if the person is asking a sincere question and kinda helps me learn about that person. So,no I am not stalking you. I just like to see what kind of questions people ask before I answer them.
2007-01-28 21:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and up fornt. Tell him your not intrseted in him that way. Do not care about how it sounds or how silly it makes you sound. At the end of the day you need to find out to get some consillation. Mybe his just being friendly. Sometimes girls get be wrong as if to say I am hitting on them. Get it out in the open and resolve it, you'll feel so much better.
2007-01-28 19:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Husain F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just being friendly........ I would take my MP3 player and turn the volume up loud or have pretend conversations on my mobile. He may take the hint. Or walk to the next bus stop?
2007-01-28 19:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Janbull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are married to a reclusive all in wrestler who weights 350 lbs, who is just about to be released from jail and has a thing against nosy neighbours
2007-01-28 19:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell him,you are not married because most married couples are trying to get out of their marriages so you prefer to take your time.
2007-01-28 20:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to mind his own business!
It's your life, and you live it as you please!
What's wrong with you?
Don't take this kind of crap from anyone!
This man is delighting in the fact that he makes you feel uncomfortable, so stand up to him, and he will stop!
2007-01-28 19:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Peter R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done is tell him you:
A. Don't believe in it
B. Haven't decided to do it
C. Haven't found the right person for you
D. Don't think it's any of his business
Pick which one fits your situation
When/if he brings up arranged marriage you should tell him:
A. You don't believe in it
B. It's not for you
C. You don't think it's any of his business
Pick which one fits your situation
2007-01-28 19:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes from a different culture he can probably have more than one wife so beware.lol On a sreious note get a friend to pretend to be your boyfriend or something so he backs of or go to adifferent busstop.
2007-01-28 19:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by funny_smartlovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks you again tell him that you have a deformity that would get in the way of a relationship with anyone. Or that you are gay. As what does it matter what this person thinks of you, just so long as you get him to stay his side of the fence.
2007-01-28 19:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋