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My fiance went to Las Vegas to a bachelor party and met a stripper at a club. They exchanged phone numbers and they talked to eachother for about an hour free of charge. (she would have charged 100 and hour) He met her at her work again the next day and they talked for another hour, free of charge. She even asked him to take her back to her hotel room be he refused and there was never any physical contact. He never mention to me about all these things after he came back home. I did a lot of investigating and found text messages that said things like "I will see you soon" stripper. "I'm so glad to hear from you, you put a smile on face" fiance. "WHen are you going to send me pictures" fiance. "How can I message you without a myspace account" fiance. I also found poetry written about her in his phone, but he never would send it to her. He also put her name in his phone as a man's name for an alias. Is this cheating?

2007-01-28 18:42:56 · 20 answers · asked by xoxo_jenn_24 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

20 answers

I would think so...

2007-01-28 19:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0 0

Well, this is lying. And if he is marrying you (you did mention he was your 'fiance') then you're always going to wonder whether he is telling you the truth or not. And being suspicious is a horrible way to live. Just ask him outright what he intends to do with this 'friendship' and take it from there. I can't say lose the loser coz everyone deserves a chance to explain their actions so you both need to sit down and have a chat and get things out in the open. Good luck.

2007-01-28 18:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0 0

YES!!!! He WILLINGLY made a move to have time with this woman. Why would there even be a question in your mind that his behaviour was totally unacceptable?! Grow some confidence and realize what you are worth. Picking up a random stripper at a club when he has given his promise of marriage to you?! Why are you allowing that as though it's acceptable? Get out before you commit to a lifetime with this man.

2007-01-28 18:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

First off, why are you "investigating" him? Sounds like you don't trust him anyway. Has he cheated in the past or are you simply insecure and/or jealous? What do you consider cheating? It's really best not to look for evidence of wrong doing, because you aren't always ready to see or hear "the truth." In the end, you are going to do what you want to do anyway, so I am not going to decide for you whether or not your fiance cheated in Vegas. Plus, I thought, "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!" :P

2007-01-28 18:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0 0

Cheating is when a person commits an act that will take something away from a relationship for the sole purpose of benefiting that person.

Both of you committed acts of cheating. Him by carrying on at all with the woman, you by sneaking around and invading his privacy and whatever else you did to get those text messages.

2007-01-28 18:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0 1

OH YEA! He's definitely cheating.
Anything hidden from you is forbidden.
And you two are suppose to get married? I would think about this if I were you.
How do you know for sure they didn't do anything? Sounds like the opposite to me.
Get to the bottom of this relationship before you make a big mistake on this man.

2007-01-28 19:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0 0

cheating is any time you partner has sexual relations with someone not yourself. It dont matter if one of you say "i need a break" and then that person feels free to have sex with another person. Thats not right to do to the one you love. What im saying is if your with someone than be true to that person. If you feel the need to screw someone else who is not your true lover then you should be strong enough to tell your partner that you are weak and can not control yourself that you want to **** around. That way you at least give your partner the chance to see that your not true to them and they should look for another partner.... I HATE A PERSON WHO THINKS THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE A PROBLEM TODAY AND WONT BE SLEEPING TOGETHER TONIGHT THAT THEY CAN JUST GO OUT THERE AND SLEEP WITH ANOTHER PERSON. AND THEN COME BACK TO ME THE NEXT DAY THINKING ALL IS O.K....
NOT RIGHT. IF SOMEONE IS CHEATING ON YOU LEAVE THEM BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH MORE THEN YOU KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-01-28 19:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by timtowall 1 · 0 0

Yes, he's cheating. What do you need dropped on you - a g*ddamned grand piano?

Poetry + stripping + secret names + invited to hotel rooms + denials of sex + talking for hours + "not mentioning it" + "smile on my face" + a girlfriend who's a little slow on the uptake = take advantage of her and cheat on her.

You cannot figure this out for yourself so I am figuring it out for you. He is cheating on you. Dump his cheating a s s now. He'll never change. Maybe you'll get to keep the toaster and other shower presents. Think of them as
parting gifts for wising up to his b u l l s h i t.

2007-01-28 18:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

OHHHH yes, this brother is cheatin, well, he is hitting that.
and loves doing it. and that is old hoochie momma stuff at that.
and just how gulliable are you, you really don't think he did the hotel room thing? Poetry?, I have to wonder about that, why would he do the poetry thing when is already getting that thing, I mean really think about that. why go to the extra trouble.
Might wanna getr tested for STD's

2007-01-28 18:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by countryboy1959 2 · 1 0

He is supposed to be committed to you--after all, you are planning on marrying him. However, I would run screaming! He is lying about this piece of trash..if he doesn't have something to hide, he wouldn't lie about it. If you have to investigate, then you obviously have a gut feeling that something is wrong...take my advice and call off the wedding. I know some people say he is just trying to get this out of his system before he gets married...I say that he should have gotten it out of his system before he became engaged. If he was really committed to you, hon, he wouldn't have done all this deceitful behavior.

2007-01-29 01:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by bamagirl 2 · 0 0

Actually, those are some 'red flags' on not to marry someone like him. If he has proposed to you and made that commitment already to you, then there is no reason for him behaving like he is not committed to you at all.

You may want to re-think all this before marrying him. He has lied already to you by putting a man's name instead of hers. He hid his tracks with that one.

2007-01-28 18:50:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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