How do you deal with Hispanic racists in NYC?

Question

I am an american asian man dating many beautiful women in NYC. first it wasn't obvious, but now it's gotten to my head and i have to learn how to deal with it. i've begun to notice that sometimes hispanic males would stare down at me while i'm with my date, especially if she's white. i've used many tactics, and the one most useful at the moment is confronting them with a question, "i've noticed that you've been staring at me. can i help you?"

if you're non-hispanic and non-white and are dating white women sometimes, can you relate to this? and if so, how do you deal with it? i've just had it up to here. thank you for responding.

and btw, only a few hispanics are racists, but the ones that i get confronted with stand out the most. and since we are able to talk about dealing with white racists, etc, i believe that we should be able to talk about other racists, especially now that hispanics are the biggest minority in the u.s.

thanks in advance.

it used to never bother me when i first came to nyc. i really miss those times.

m c

wow. you got me. you're absolutely right. i don't date anybody and i'm just playing a race card. how did you know that? you so far have the best answer... i mean, i should have known that all hispanics are perfect. there's no racists in that race. and when a hispanic male does happen to stare down at me when i'm with an "imagined" date, i should know that i'm just pulling a race card because it's not right to badmouth any non-existing racists in the hispanic race. and y'know, i don't live in a place where 50% of the residents are hispanics.

you're the least prejudiced person here. thanks for not judging me btw.

open your mind.

Stone K

"they see you have a good looking girl they may feel that you are not worthy and try to intimidate you away from her."

that statement speaks to me. that's the body language that i get. and nowadays i get angry that they can think such things about me. it's degrading. sometimes i feel like i have to prove something to these racists. and you're right, they never physically confront me. it's all in the body language, which i used to never notice when i first came to nyc.

YOU JUST PINPOINTED AT MY HEART.

thank you very much.

Daemon,
i'm a kinda person that meets people in the subway. as a matter of fact, all my really good friends have been met through a subway ride. and the racist thing happens the most when i start initiating a conversation with someone whom i find attractive in the subway station, even when the woman is responding very positively towards me.

the only reason why i'm writing this is nowadays i lose my cool when i notice that someone's staring down at me. i can be having the most fun conversation with the girl, and i get thrown off when i notice these things.

and i wish i didn't.

Answer 1

Being Hispanic I can tell you , it's machismo crap.

Guys raised in the old school ways often act like that. Some how if you have a better looking girl than them your attacking their manhood. Or If they see you have a good looking girl they may feel that you are not worthy and try to intimidate you away from her.

Its really dumb and I saw it all the time. Hell I was even on the receiving end of that kinda treatment from time to time, including very open and nasty comments about me in front of the girl I was with.

Its almost always piss and bluster though.

Best thing I can say is ignore them.

Take pride in the fact you got a better date than them. I did and it always shut them up.

that's the only advice I have.

Answer 2

Very good question. I happen to be a hispanic from New York City and I find it hard to believe that hispanics are treating you in such a harsh way. I am sorry for this and I assure you that this must be an isolated problem since hispanics really dont care if a white girl goes out with an asian person. May be the guys in that area are just a bunch of jerks. Every nationality has a ****** in their groups, the hispanic guys you have met are just that. Jerks.
My apologies and good luck and all the best with your girl.

Answer 3

Hello,
I would like to first start by saying how sorry I am for your frustration due to narrow minded people out there.
Second racist has no morals, no reason just a maddest.
It's too bad we weren't all born blind because the way I see it We can't comment or what we can't see, Therefore we would all be one colour. (As like in god's eyes).

I Believe it starts from the day we are born
The way we raise loved, nurture and taught.
We reap what we sow!

Make you left asking yourself," Who hurt them so bad to hurt others?"

I personally would consider the source.
Unfortunately that can't always be.
So stand up for your god given right, confront it head on.
Try talking man to man with them, in a reasonable voice not threaten.
Ask then ," Why are they doing this?"

Who knows maybe that would stop them dead in their tracks just enough to think about it.
You might end up finding out your actually help this person to change his view and out look!

TEACH THE WORLD TO BE A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN

- Some people can't can't see the forest through the trees.

Good luck my friend and the best of you and your lady.
^j^ Sandra ^j^

Answer 4

Hispanics have become a stand out race, not technically but you can tell on a lot of them... I don´t suggest confrontation, you may find a loco and things can go bad... does it bother you so much? ignore the stares

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is ignore it because you never know who is crazy and who is sane. I've seen this before in my area but it was only when hispanic women dated white men.

Answer 6

1) Hispanic is not a race

2) Run away

3) GRINGO BLASPHEMS BRAZILIAN FLAG!

go to:
fantastico.globo.com (without www)

You can see 3 videos, click on the one on the left: "Desrespeito à bandeira".

Answer 7

I pat them on top the head and tell them to run along.

Answer 8

they are just jealous!