my wife is so shy that when i am trying to touch her or simply kiss her on her neck,soldersand chik she lives the bed room when i am changing my cloths at night or when i am in underwear she goes out of the room or if i had bean locked it earlear she goes in batheroom so please tell me that how i would havepleser of having sex in such condition .it has bean 1 year of my marraige .i olso wear condoms at night becouse i thout that she didn't like baby yet now we sleap on same bed in the bedroom but she don't even likes to talk me on some romatic toppic becouse of her shy mood
2007-01-28 18:24:54 · 8 answers · asked by Rishabhdeo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ask her directly what the problem is and why she is shying away and denying the basic right of a husband. one year is too long period. its time both you should have a baby now. i appreciate your degree of patience. if in my case i could have divorce her long time back. anyway dont' talk about love for the time being . be polite and take her out for a walk and talk to her. she may need your help. if it does not work consult doctors.
2007-01-28 21:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friend, this normally happens in the case of well brought up girls unless otherwise they are misguided by some crooks. All you have to do is talk ..talk...talk. i don't know whether u had sex till now with your wife. if you really want that your wife should understand about sexual life, then i think u r gentle.
Just try to convince her by talking about her knowledge about sex. like periods, formation of baby in womb, construction of genital organs, safe periods for sex, contraception etc.. This may take just a month but u will come to know what she knows about sex. if she really did not ever know about this, i'm sure .... enjoy after a month. good luck!
2007-01-28 18:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by nakkals 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not going to be easy, you never mentioned how old is your wife.
you need to break down this shy mood, perhaps a few drinks would help you unwind, or perhaps a movie with some sex scenes, I am not suggesting porno, but many films now adays have a sex scene in the film.
good luck
2007-01-28 18:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by johnfleming32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats. the consequences of the rule NO Sex before marriage!!! -)
maybe she is asexual?? try talking to her when she is comfortable and not in the bedroom!! tell her that u love her and you waited for such long time for her and u will wait again..however..is there some kind of particular reason she doesnt want to sleep with you?? maybe she has child trauma...talk to her. ask her to tell you ..to share her story..since you are married..and u trust each other and etc...
i feel bad for you man...good luck
2007-01-28 18:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Feodora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a few questions..have you yet to have sex with her at all? if no and your married there could only be 2 reasons 1 she is a dude and you just don't know it yet, or 2 something happened to her once in her life that really is causing this go see a counselor..
2007-01-28 18:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean you are married for one whole year but haven't had sex with your wife?
That's really alarming!!!
I think you should openly talk to her about this and ask her the problem. You cannot hold your relationship longer in this kind of situation.
2007-01-28 18:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Pinks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has some major issues if she acts like that with her husband....... or maybe it's because you talk the way you write.... confusing.
2007-01-28 18:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to treat her to a massage and some wine
2007-01-28 18:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by goodlionvic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋