the thing is my parents are kind of strict and well im just scared i'll get kicked out... i work not the best job ever but its a job im a shift manager at a pizza hut and my boyfriend is also working as a security and will be finishing his carrer in about 6 months so were not doing terribly bad its just im most afraid of my dad i've been trying to tell them since i found out in december but i didnt want to ruine their holidays and i really need some kind of advice... please help
2007-01-28 18:10:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Remember that your parents love you. You're their daughter! They may get upset, but they'll still love you and support you, at least emotionally. Just come out and tell them honestly. Make sure you tell them what you plan to do with the baby, and how you're going to make things work. Their main problem might be a responsibility thing, and if you show them how much thought you've put into it, you'll be showing them that you can make responsible choices, even if getting pregnant itself was not a responsible move.
2007-01-28 18:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Janae, it is very hard as a young woman to tell your parents you're pregnant, but in the end they love you and will support you. I had the same difficulty telling my whole family I was pregnant with my fiancee and I am 22. It was very hard at first but now, we have a determination to try to provide everything our daughter needs and are so very much excited. If you feel a little nervous about telling both at the same time, then try to sit down with your mom which you feel more comfortable with since dad seems more uptight and tell her. It really could help, and it will be a big relief. Then, you can tell dad next. Just remember to be truthful, let them know you were so scared and thought you would be kicked out and all your fears, just be honest. So, many girls would have tried to choose a different path, but it seems of no option for you. Congratulations and may God be with you.
2007-01-29 02:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by tiff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk in, sit down, tell them you need to speak to them about something very important. Tell them it is so difficult to talk about that you have been putting it off (everyone has had that experience of not wanting to face something...)
Then think about what it is going to be like as you get more and more pregnant and where that is going to lead - to childbirth and a baby. You need your parents advice more than ever - and their support. Tell them as soon as you possibly can. Get it over with. If you decide to keep the baby, what is ahead of you is going to change your life so much that this meeting with your parents is going to be a small, small part of it when you think about it years from now.
You have a job and that is good. Your parents are just going to be shocked and disappointed. I do hope they don't kick you out.
2007-01-31 21:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing is happening to me except I'm 17. You just have to tell them when its a good time. You are going to start showing anyway. I would just talk to them either on the phone or face to face. Its not like hes gunna kill you. You are 18 years old and you could get money from the state to even help you. You and your boyfriend at least have a job. You just need to let your parents know and then start taking care of yourself and your new baby. When you talk to your parents just tell them up front I'm 18 and i can take care of myself and this was my decision.
2007-01-29 13:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would suggest is probably tell your mom first. I know that when I was worried about telling my parents I was pregnant I pulled my mom aside and showed her a counter that I had. It took her a little bit but she got it. She kinda hinted towards my dad. Surprisingly they were and are both very excited. My parents aren't the strickest in the world, but hopefully that will help you out a little bit for breaking the news to your parents. If all else fails, bring your boyfriend, sit you parents down and just explain it all to them.
Good luck, and congradulations. :)
2007-01-29 02:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, that happened to my sister. Very young strict dad. He HIT THE ROOF, BUT now after the baby is here, he absolutely adores that kid. I mean its only normal he would be so angry because you were irrisponsible and having sex with someone.
My sister wrote him a letter to tell him. It was cowardly but it gave them both time to cool down. She stayed at a friends for 2 days, told them where she was of course. Then she came home and it was a bit easier for all.
This is a scary situation for you but you will see it will be a thing of the past when it all works out.
Have a plan about what you are going to do with your boyfriend, like live together, child care etc..when you face them.
Maybe tell your mom first .
2007-01-29 03:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well is the bf going to be sticking around to help you? I know parents are strict and can be quiet mean but the best thing you can do is talk to the one you are closest to first. explain your situation and have them to help you go to the other parent. If your not close to either one then try to find an aunt - uncle- grandparent or someone that you are close to and have them to help you to decide what to do. The longer the secret the harder it is going to be to tell. Well Good Luck and God Bless. Hope your parents will understand.
2007-01-29 02:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by raspberrysmell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, if you are old enough to be sexually active and so mature, you should have no problem facing your parents. Just go over there with your bf, tell your parents, as well as his parents, plan a really quick and small wedding, and move on with trying to provide a family for your child. Congrats on the child and the upcoming wedding!
2007-01-29 07:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that REALLY sucks...well sit them down and be like "mom, dad i've been thinking of soo many ways to try and tell you this...i really didnt want to hurt you in any way or make you think less of me...but something happened to me and i had no control of it..it just happended...and then be like im pregnant...and be like this is as hard for me as it is for you and if i could of i wouldn of done some things different but i cant turn back the clock im going to have to stick it through....i will raise this baby with or with out your help but i am your daughter and i need your support...some thing like that
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-01-29 02:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Alisonnnnn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant at 19, and had to tell my dad. I just was honest and he gave me a big lecture about "I told you so". You should just get it over with and tell them. If they care about the health of you and your child they will help you though your situation. Sometime you will be surprised at the reaction you thought you were going to get. I was and my dad was very strict.
2007-01-29 02:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by ompie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋