I am at such a loss. This woman acts like she cares so much for him, but I have recently found out that she doesn't like him very much, dislikes his children and cannot stand his grandchildren. Does anyone have any good advice? Thank you.
2007-01-28 17:48:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, if I wasn't clear about "loved one". This man is my great uncle, and I love him dearly. He is very old and in need of someone to take care of him and she isn't. My feeling is she would like to hasten his end.
2007-01-28 18:12:27 · update #1
I would go to him with the information, but be prepared he may not believe you and could even get angry. It sucks that they already are married. How do you know she doesn't like him that much? Then again, he may know and just really want the companionship.
2007-01-28 17:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would visit him regularly. I hope she doesn't have a policy on him....... Of course she does because she is his wife. Find out if he has any health issues like High blood pressure or heart problems and make sure she isn't feeding him unhealthy foods like salty, fried/greasy, porky or sugary foods that will bring his health down. Let her see that he is not a lonely old man and he has people concerned about him regularly. But don't be mean to her.
2007-01-29 02:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. There is nothing you can do. If he married her he must be getting something from her.And when that wears off he will see her true colors and can do something about it himself. In the mean time you would only be disliked for trying to point this out to him. Live and let live.
2007-01-29 02:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't want to hear your opinion about her I'm sure, but you can get the idea across without coming right out and saying it. Maybe you could try talking to him about making sure he has a will in place that takes care of his kids and grandkids.
2007-01-29 02:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that it depends on how the guy will react. if he cares for you like you care for him then he will listen to you and investigate. More than likely he does know. she can't hide that she hates the kids, and if she does hide that, the kids can tel and talk to him about it and he should listen to them more than just a friend (or as you called yourself, a loved one.) If you are one of his kids tell him he has the right to know that you don't think shes right for him.
2007-01-29 02:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mamma M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had to learn the hard way, you cannot save people from themselves. I'm the type of person that likes to "rescue" people, but I've learned not to do that anymore. Let it be. Your loved one has to figure it out on his own.
2007-01-29 02:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray is great because do not hurt him and isolate yourself. Love him and stay as close as you can and maybe he will see. especially if there is more opportunity to have children and grands around as much as possible.
2007-01-29 01:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. She knows what she's doing, but eventually it will come back around on her.
2007-01-29 01:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business. He married her.
You could express your concerns to him but that is it.
2007-01-29 03:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll show her true colors sooner or later. No worries.
2007-01-29 01:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋