why can't people just be nice?

Question

i feel like everywhere i turn, whether it's my own experience, or a friends', i keep seeing how mean spirited some people are. I just don't get it.

Answer 1

Hello!! :o) It is the 'nature of man' to be self-serving and cruel. We must INTEND on being something other than that. A parent never has to teach his child how to be selfish. He has to teach that child how to be thoughtful, considerate and kind. For some little humans - the idea of SHARING is an unpleasant 'new' idea!! Nice takes work. It means NOT saying what we FEEL like saying. [All the time] So when you DO come across a 'nice guy' - be sure to be especially nice back. For you KNOW the effort that person is putting into being 'nice'. It's sad though - that so many people don't seem to put any effort into being NICE!!
Have a great day!! Craig!! :o)

Answer 2

I know where you are coming from, I feel that way sometimes too. I depress myself because everyone lets me down, and people disappoint me. But you have to try and look for the good things too. Watch a movie with a good message. Save newspaper articles about the good things people do. Make sure you look for the positive.

Answer 3

People can be nice. They won't be nice. It is a choice. They make it. We can't change it. What we can do, however, is continue to be nice, ourselves, recognizing that our behavior is not determined by their behavior, but is the example by which they may choose to alter their behavior. Try not to be discouraged. Sometimes, all it takes is for someone to be nice to them, and they realize that they can be nice, too. :)

Answer 4

maybe you caught them on one of their bad days.... or it could be that they are just plain mean and careless of others. I find it unhealthy to be around those kind of people, so try to surround yourself with "good" people... it will make you feel better.

Answer 5

You're not looking in the right place.