Is being poor (a small home, an old car..etc) enough reason to avoid your friends. This is exactly my problem. I am afraid of making relationships with new friends because eventually they will discover that i am poor then i will be abandoned.
2007-01-28 17:10:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Oh for crying out loud,your poor ; so what!
Join the crowd.
And if you meet people who are going to judge you on what you have instead of who you are then I wouldn't want to know these people much less try to be friends with them.
It's who you are;not what you have.
2007-01-28 17:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Poor is not a sin, even though there are those who would say it is. You are looking at this the wrong way. Instead of being "poor", you are "non-materialistic". Your character is such that having fancy cars and expensive clothes are not as attractive to you as having a quality life with good friends with integrity. Turn that negative outlook into a positive quality. People who abandon you for being poor are saving you from having such shallow friends.
2007-01-29 02:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, if you're a nice person people won't abandon u for being poor. And the fact that you're asking the question means you're considerate, which is more than a lot of rich people.
Sensibly, the one thing to be careful of is overspending and hanging out with people you can't afford to hang out with, because this is a surefire way to become trapped in debt. Considerate and unhappy is far worse than considerate and slightly worried.
As for being abandoned - well, if people abandon u for being considerate, then u have to ask the question - are they really worthy of your time?
2007-01-29 03:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Dogstarrr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide not to let your financial status (or lack of it) define who you are, and if your friends are people who measure others by how much wealth they have then they aren't friends you want anyway.
People don't have to act poor just because they have little money. It is entirely possible to have dignity, be well informed and/or intelligent, be refined, and have the same values as anyone with more money. I think the thing that sometimes separates people from middle-class families and people from lower-income families is that sometimes there is a certain type of thinking associated with coming from a lower income family; and that type of thinking (resenting people with more money, settling into the idea of not bothering trying to make something of oneself, doing the things that are associated with "low class" behavior, etc.) that creates a gap.
If, however, you don't let lower income define who you are you won't fall victim to that type of thinking; so just relax and make friends and don't worry about it. Most of your potential friends just don't care about how much money your family has.
2007-01-29 01:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? you putting on airs as they say? you slummin around high dollar places you can't afford, tryin to be part of some sort of upperclass scene?
got news for you. people already know.
2007-01-29 01:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh no dont let that get in ur way of having friends.please! true friends dont care about financial status..
2007-01-29 01:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wuuut.
2007-01-29 01:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋