My girlfriend Britney hasn't always been exactly a sound minded person. According to her, she's been through a lot of "drama" and I need to get over myself, but I still think she needs help. She comes complete with her own personal baggage, including claims of depression, suicidal tendencies, complete mental breakdowns...but if you ask her on the right day, she'll claim she was sexually abused as well. Heaven forbid you mention something you might have, because then she'll have it too. In one week, she's developed an anxiety disorder, bulimia, anorexia, and chronic migraines.
As of late, she's been acting more like a kid than the adult she's supposed to be. In the past month, she's moved out of her parent's home, (as per the advice of her MySpace friends) moved in with a stranger, moved out and then in with her boyfriend (who just so happens to be a schizophrenic) and then she had to move in with his sister.
Mind you, she has no job, no money, nothing of any value to her name. She's never had a real job; her parents paid for everything she's ever had. They even paid for the car she drove around in, until it ran out of gas and now it's sitting in the driveway of another friends' house.
Right now, she's stuck with more bills than Carter has liver pills, she's facing yet another pregnancy scare, her boyfriend is flat-broke and facing eviction from his apartment, she still hasn't got a job...the list is as long as my arm, and yet she still has means enough to go out and party like there's no tomorrow.
I, as most of my other friends do, have a job but still live at home, so she immediately scoffs at whatever advice I offer. Apparently I have no life experience, no right to try and rule her life...anything and everything I try to tell her is absolute garbage. She calls me a 'spoiled princess' and a 'fraidy cat baby' because I won't go out partying with her, but she still calls me every time something goes wrong.
I'm getting really sick of being the one that has to drive out to BFE to scrape her up off the floor and bring her back to the land of the living.
What can I tell her so she'll try and straighten up? Apparently, my sheltered life isn't up to snuff for her wild one, so whatever I say is trashed, but if I mention that someone on-line told me, she's bound to listen and give a damn.
2007-01-28 16:54:26 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Kitae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she sounds like a severe hypochondriac or she has munchausen im going with munchausen. Someone with munchausen makes up lies about being sick they will even change test results or purposley hurt them selves where was a hypochondriac will stress and become convinced there is something seriously wrong when its nothing like a twitch might set them off.
She is evidently not mature enough to be living out of home, I suggest getting in contact with her parents and telling them everythng you have told us, they may be the only people who can have some control over her if they knuckle down.
As for her claim of having this "wild life" it sounds more pathetic than anything and by the sounds of her immaturity she has no "life experience" under her belt just lie after lie and mistake after mistake.
If theres no convincing her then find a new friend, she doesn't sound like she cares about you that much if she puts you down so easily and won't even take your advice and she will eventually learn the hard way you can't just breeze through life with no money or n stability.
Goodluck with sorting her out
2007-01-29 08:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-29 07:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like daddy's lil girl is doing everything she can to keep getting attention. honestly it sounds as though it's not really a friendship at all. because her parents have bought her everything she thinks that everything should be handed to her on a silver platter. next time she calls you and needs you to do something for her tell her no. explain to her that you are not going to pick up the pieces anymore. explain to her that until she gets her life and her act together, she is on her own. you have a life and you don't need her dragging you down.
i had a friend like that. she would always show up at my door when she needed food, money and a place to stay and then she would be off. but then it got to the point that i had to be there for her and only her. when i refused to help her anymore she flipped out and went on a rampage. but now i have a full time job my own place a beautiful lil girl and extra money. she on the other hand is still running around acting like a fool and has been pregnant twice but lost them on purpose. she ahs no job an std and all i can say is hey at least i tried. good luck and i hate to say it but it's time you put your foot down.
2007-02-05 06:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by ber-ber21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you might want to do is catch her on her "good day" and ask her if it would be a good idea to go in to see a doctor. she just may be bipolar. there are different levels of bipolar...so try to explain that to her. she may get really offended.
a lot of people confuse bipolar disorder for depression. those who are bipolar can be happy go lucky one minute than depressed and hates the world the next. another characteristic is that they are risk-takers... they know and understand consequences but just not "care". for example: speeding or going on shopping sprees with little or no money.
now on the other side... personally if a friend talked to me as she apparently does to you, i would tell her to go **** off. all you have done is try to be there for her and if she can't see that than it's her loss.
so see where talking to her about bipolar disorder goes. and if it seems that she just wont take than it's just your decision whether you want someone like her as a friend.
2007-01-28 17:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by KTAC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does'nt even sound like a real person......she needs more help then you can do, like a real doctor or something. She sounds like she just wants someone to feel sorry for her. Tell her exactly what u just wrote to us and if that doesnt work, call her family and tell them to come get her because you can't deal with her anymore. That's all I have. Good Luck!
2007-01-28 17:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by grown n sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to McDonald's give her a few buck tell her to go in and get you a burger and drive off shes just using you anyway . One of two things will happen when she comes to get her thing she will either get the message and straited up or move on to the next victim
2007-02-04 20:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy sounds like a couple of my friends. I have this one friend who use to be just like that and no matter what I told her it when in one ear and out the other like my advice never materd to her at all. I was just trying to control her life and not let her have fun those are some of things she use to say to me. I ended up talking with her mother because everything she was doing was only going to get herself killed and when we all had a talk with her she yelled at us and said stop trying to controll my life!!. But yet when anything was wrong she would always come to me about it. Then my best friend was dating a guy once who was psycialy and mentaly abusive and just not right in the head. I would give her advice but she never took it even thow she asked me for it time and time again!. If someone elese told her the same thing oh she believed them I never did get that one lol. But anyhow here is what happens with this neither one of them listend to me and continued to do what they where doing all I could do was sit there,watch,and just be a supportive friend even thow that was hard to do. My first friend met some people who helped her out and changed her around what they did I have no clue lol. But my best friend stayed with this guy and had a kid with him and everything. She ended up leaving him for good on her own once he tried to kill her!!. I think people just need to learn on their own learn the hard way to truly ever believe what is wrong. Its hard to watch a friend hurt themselves but you just half to sit back and let them do what they wanna do and learn on their own. If it comes to much for you to handle then stop being her friend if you would be ok with that I know its not easy to just give up a friend because I could not do it. Hopfully your friend will relize what she is doing is wrong and will change her ways before she gets hurt. I hope everything works out for you. Now both my friends tell me all the time how they should have just listend to me from the start so Im sure your friend will feel the same once her eyes are open to everything.
2007-02-05 04:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't help her any more. Tell her you can't afford to help - monetary and emotionally any more. then take her to the hospital and sign her in to the physic ward!
2007-02-05 07:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more help than you can provide. She is BAGGAGE.
2007-01-28 17:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋