I am going to propose to my boyfriend since its kind of the thing to do in his culture. Should i get an engagement ring or propose with a plain wedding band? I dont know what to do!!!!
2007-01-28 16:48:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I thought about proposing to my now husband and when I was thinking about it I had the same question. But if you think about the ring idea, a guy shouldn't wear a ring on that finger before he is actually married and since he doesn't traditionally get to have two rings, you should probably steer clear of this idea. I think something monogrammed with his initials that means something to him would be sweet....like a great golf club if he's a golfer. Otherwise, don't give anything at all...proposing life together is about as big as you can give! and he will see that. Since it isn't traditionally done this way (in the U.S.), you don't have any preset mold. I would take advantage of that and just do what feels right considering who he is and who you are. However, maybe you need to research the culture he is from to know more about what women traditionally do when they propose.
2007-01-28 16:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Monique D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, both parties are entitled to a ring. I've always wondered why only the female wears an engagement ring, but both wear wedding bands. I've never researched the subject though. So i'm sure there's a reason. I just think that both should if they really want to. An engagement ring is so that a woman can show that she's about to be married, so don't some men want to show the same? Or maybe, just maybe, the idea of an engagement ring is leftover from a time when men owned their women. And it symbolizes that her ownership is about to be passed from her father/brother to her future husband. Just a thought, but an interesting thought.
2016-03-29 07:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, according the an above answer, you can ask, but he should buy you a ring. Now, I wouldn't get him a ring, but he shouldn't be ecpected to buy you one either.
That would be the same as you asking him to dinner and a movie, then expecting him to pay.
This is 2007, not 1955. Why not get engaged, and you'll get a ring when you get married.
Of course, I am not the one to answer, as I am still paying on the engagment ring I bought, and I am divorced. Sad thing, the debt from the ring was prior to marriage, so it stayed with me. The ring is considered a gift, so I could not get it back. It's BS, and something I will never be doing again.
2007-01-28 17:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are marrying him, but don't know much of his culture on how they marry, why not ask another woman from his culture the same question you asked here.
Not sure what culture he comes from, so my best guess would probably be a plain band. Just hope you don't offend him or his family. So it is best to find out by someone who knows of his culture.
2007-01-28 16:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not buying that it's his culture. Ask him about marriage, but it's up to him to propose. I find that the kind of guy that needs his woman to propose won't be the kind of rock a man has to be in a happy marriage. Don't waste your money on jewelry until you figure out what's up with this guy. As a married guy, I find a man like the one you're describing as too weak to be a husband.
2007-01-28 17:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
what kind of culture is that? well give him the engagement ring first then the wedding band 2nd . thats the tradition. this may sound silly but can you let me know what happends and e mail me? well good luck
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stephanie
2007-01-28 16:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by yp_stephanie_el_monte 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you don't get down on one knee and everything. Take him to a nice restaurant (without a ring) take his hand, look him in the eyes and ask him. If he says no, then at least your not out money because of a ring.
2007-01-28 16:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, there's no rule. You're man's not gonna wanna wear two rings is he? I'd leave the jewelry out of this, it's the love that matters. Who cares if you don't get a big diamond ring! Jewels and gems are worth nothing compared to unconditional love. Good luck!
2007-01-28 16:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your best bet is to find out what other people in his culture do.
Otherwise, I would say a wedding band is appropriate.
2007-01-28 17:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't buy him any ring. If you wish to propose to him, just ask, and if he says yes, then he should still buy you a ring. Just be patient waiting for it.
2007-01-28 16:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋