Would you live for....?

Question

It has been said more often than not "I would die for you!", and this has been said to show the greatest form of love.

BUT lets get real here, Dieing is easy. You die and that is it! Your of the hook.

My question is, would (and could) you love someone enough to live for them, to give up your dreams and aperations to live for some one else, doing anything and everything that they need of you (CANNOT BE CHILDREN)? If so (and if you don't mind saying) who?

Please no religious quotes. SERIOUS answers only please.

Please explain your answers as to why or why not. I thank you in advance for your honest answer.

Excellent counter point by Jessabeth.

Answer 1

i always thought that people who were willing to give up their hopes and dreams for someone else, no matter how much the loved them, was crazy. this was one of the reasons i swore i'd never get married, because i believed that i would have to relinquish my goals if i did so.

in an ideal world, both individuals in a relationship would be able to equally pursue their dreams and aspirations. however, time and money often conspire to prevent this from becoming a reality.

i'm glad that life has proven my notions about marriage incorrect. if you love someone, and you know they have your best interests at heart, then living for that person is easy. i have made and continue to make sacrifices for my husband, but this is a joy because i know he would and does do the same for me.

even though i might have made some "big" sacrifices for him, like postponing grad school (which i have since completed), and moving across the country, away from my friends and family, he makes "little" sacrifices for me every day, like turning off the game to listen to me talk about a bad day at work, cancelling plans with friends to help me with an important project, or running errands for me on his lunch break. this giving of one another's time and effort is what makes relationships work--it's called compromise. part of being in a relationship is knowing and understanding that you can't always have your way.

great question, and thanks for asking it. made me think about my marriage and how awesome my hubby is! :)

Answer 2

I've often wondered the same thing. A while back that would have been an easy answer and included many people: family, friends, etc. I don't have so much energy these days. I agree with you - it is a very very powerful statement to say I'd live for you (or with you etc...) but I don't recommend giving up on dreams and aspirations. I believe we are here to evolve to perfect self expression and inspire others to do the same. still, great question!

Answer 3

As a being programed to want to live, I don't believe that dieing is easy. Just because of the fact that once you are dead,there is no going back. That is why to contemplate such a thing on behalf of another person is looked at as such a great form of showing love. But to live for someone would be way easier. Because there is always the chance that you could wake up and realize that that is not what love is all about.

Answer 4

I could and I did to care for my mom when she was diagnosed with breast cancer it really took a toll on her then with all the doctor appointments chemo then radiation and continuing infections it was awful that was 5 years ago now shes doing better and in remission but has other medical problems we have since moved her in with us thankfully my husband is a very caring and loving person and my children love their grandma I lost my dad at an early age and I tell people all the time you don't miss what you have until its gone I try and do what I can for people this life is to short to be selfish and this is done out of LOVE not a feeling of guilt or need to

Answer 5

thats a hard question. as an athiest. i dont think there is anything after death. black nothingness so it would be hard. you didn't specify assumed children. lets say i was an old man and i taught everything i know to my favored top student. and this person was in trouble. classic story, the teacher makes way for the new generation. of course there is also a sense of duty. if i was a bodyguard for, lets say, the president. obviously i would give my life for him or her. so it would require a great deal of respect or duty. along with a little crazy.

Answer 6

yes, i think so. i have not had to really do this for my husband (although i did move to another state when he was transferred, which means i had to delay my studies). but i think it could only truly work if both people in the relationship were willing to live for each other. otherwise then it just becomes a slave/master type relationship with one person making all the demands, and someone else making all the sacrifices.

Answer 7

I honestly don't think I could ever give myself up for somebody else. That may change, and I would do as much as I could for my parents, sister, and close friends, as long as I could also live for me.

I think I would go crazy not living for myself. I have always had big dreams, and I don't know that I could give those up for somebody else.

This question actually really reminds me of "The Awakening" by Kate Chopin - the main character has to deal with trying to gain and maintain independence in her marriage... interesting ending, too.

Answer 8

People give up dreams and aspirations all the time when they're in love, because love can fool them into thinking thats what they actually what they want to do. Sometimes its true, more often than not they're being fooled by the love drug.

Answer 9

Yes, I feel that for someone even more then for my child, for whom I feel that too.
Even when I go into solitary and drive away all my brainy thoughts this wish rises up from my soul to do whatever I can for this person. Perhaps it is not so unselfish as it makes me happy if I see and experience that this person is happy. Here the saying is true, that what we do for another in reality we do only for ourselves. It makes me happy if this person feels free and happy.

Answer 10

yeah i sure would,, my partner means the world to me, and i think when u really love someone when u know there the person u want to spend the rest of your life with,, then all you ever want is for them to be happy and do whats best for them,,in other words you would do anything for them,because they become the meaning to your life,,your dreams your hopes everything its a wonderful feeling