I live in the same town that my ex-son-in law does. When my teenage grandaughter comes to visit I don't even get a phone call. Should I just ignore this or should I try to form a relationship with her. she is 15. Her brother and I get along fine. I don't want her to dislike me.
2007-01-28 16:43:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, please remember that having a relationship with a teenager is kinda like hugging a hand-grenade. It might work, or it might blow up in your face. I'd suggest you extend the olive branch, but don't be surprised if you get a rude answer. It's not you, it's the hormones. If it doesn't work, try again in a few years.
2007-01-28 19:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to form a relationship with her. There is something about that type of bond that a Mother and Daughter can't have. It doesn't mean anyone loves each other less or anything like that, it's just different. And you'll both miss out on so much if you don't have one.
Sounds like you need to make the first move though. Ask her to lunch and go from there. My older sister and my Grandma had a very strong relationship. You would be right to say that they were best friends in a way. They would talk, watch TV and just have good times when they were together.
Remember she's only fifteen so let her be a fifteen year old, and remember what it was like when you were fifteen. Tell her what it was like. Get the ball rolling. You'll be blessed, the both of you.
2007-01-29 01:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by stray cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your grand daughter just show up has it advantages and disadvantages. First she feel comfortable enough to want to be with you. That is a good thing. If it is just for money and or what can I get , then it isn't good. If you are their sanctuary that is great. Build on good things and let the parents raise them. You focus on the helping them find themselves in this world. They need you and you need them. Love is the greatest gift anyone can give. I love both of my grand children and would do anything that I thought would help them learn and live and be a better person.
2007-01-29 00:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself on your terms. She does need your love or she would not visit. Yes, form an honest loving relationship with her. Do not speak negatively about either of her parents. Be open, be loving, but do not let yourself be abused if you feel their ulterior motives in her visits.
I'm sure you have much wisdom, experience and advice to share with a 15 year old. Share it, but don't preach. Let her know you love her unconditionally and that she can confide in you without you being judgemental.
I wish you the best. I've been there - done that!
Just love her, accept her and listen.
2007-01-29 00:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi 4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Form one on your own. A young girl would love to have a relationship with her grandmother. Don't wait for your ex-son-in-law. And what about your daughter .. she should be encouraging her 15 yo to get close to grandma.
2007-01-29 01:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice for your granddaughter to have a positive role model of a grand mother in her life, especially at her age. Make an attempt to get to know her, kids at her age usually won't take action to call you, take the first step and see where it leads you . if you do nothing you may regret it later, and feel guilty. Remember your the adult, do the right thing.
2007-01-29 00:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say try to keep in contact with your god daughter. if you dont then you will be wondering what if's and so would she. plus im pretty sure that you dont want any regrets. my parents are divorced and my dads mom died when i was in 5th grade. i wish i could have been around her more. she was really cool. but i have a grandma now and i love her with all my heart. and im pretty sure that your granddaughter will feel the same if given the chance. well good luck
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stephanie
2007-01-29 00:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by yp_stephanie_el_monte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Grammy~
Invite her to do something, you really cant leave it up to the teens, they'll choose their cell phone over a family member any day of the week...
My kids grandparents have to get creative and be fun, and keep that love alive. Dont be shy...she's blood...call her! Good luck!
2007-01-29 00:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call you granddaughter and invite her to come and so something with you on your time.
She is there to visit her father and he is under no obligation to share his visitation time with you. That is his time... he doesn't have her every day.
If you want to have a good relationship with your granddaughter then you need to call her and ask her to come see you... get involved in her life... show interest in her.
2007-01-29 00:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandma/Grand-daughter relationships are so very important, I hope you can work it out. My daughter has the best Grma in th world and I didn't really have that growing up and always was jealous of friends who did!
2007-01-29 00:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by S A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋