To the Wives, would you want to know if your husband was cheating?

Question

If you read my other post youll get a better idea as to whats going on.

long story short, i found out my bf was living with the mother of his child, sharing the same bed. I ended the relationship, now he has come crawling back in tears. i fell for it. he said he will leave the girlfriend if i move to his state. We've spent afternoons together in hotels since ive known of his situation, but he says he only stays for the sake of the child. i feel i owe it to the girlfriend to tell her what hes promising me, as he obviously has no intentions of telling her himself.

would you want to know your husband/boyfriend/father of your child was messing around for a second time with the same woman?, and if so, how would be the best way to go about it?

Answer 1

Yes I would want to know and then I would kick his sorry a** to the curb. Sweetie, he is not going to leave her. He is getting what he wants from you and is having his nice little family life as well.If she knew than maybe she would give him the boot but do you really want the lying, cheating bum as a boyfriend. Find someone who will treat you right and wants to only be with you.

Answer 2

Don't fall for it again! Why do you have to move to his state to get him to move out of her life! If he is really that unhappy it wouldn't take you to move there for him to leave. He is passifing you probably because he doesn't think you will really move there! You are giving him his cake and letting him eat it too! I would want to know he is cheating, but would only want to hear it from him! I have had the other women tell me before and it hurts 1000 times worse! She has a child to think about! If he is serious with you he will tell her like a man! The poor girl deserves to be with someone who really loves her and so do you! Remember if he will cheat on her chances are he will cheat on you!

Answer 3

You know, you told her once about his plans, that showed her right there that he was scum, but she didn't leave. She knows what he is but is obviously staying because either one, she is way insecure and feels like she can't do any better and if that is the case she wont leave him for any reason or two for their child which she will leave him eventually but not any time soon. All you have to do is tell him to leave you the hell alone, that you know what kind of man he is and you have more pride in yourself to be with any man who would do that to his family.

Answer 4

As a wife, I would want to know so I could get right into my lawyers office and take his sorry a** for every penny he has. As for you, has it occured to you that you are a homewrecker? He has absolutely no intention of leaving his wife, get a clue! Men love their wives but they also love to bang any stupid chic that will let them, stop being that stupid chic! you are letting him play you for a fool! Has it aso occured to you that getting involved with a man of his integrity is probably not the smartest thing to do? If he is doing this to his wife he will eventually do it to you too! Be advised that if you do opt to tell this woman you will probably have a butt whoopin coming! And she will probably not even leave the guy! Most woman HATE to loose and they feel like if they let you have their husband they are somehow loosing something, even though he's a piece of crap.

Answer 5

YES!!! I have been trying to catch my husband for 2 years, and it is driving me insane thinking about it! But I do not want to leave until I know that he FOR SURE did. I wish that the women would call me or leave a trail of her presence or something just so I could catch him, but so far nothing. But there really is no easy way of telling a women that her man or whatever he is to her has been with you also. I would think about the problems that it could bring to you, if you do not know her, but I would start by just calling her and being honest. But like I said before, think really hard about that before you do anything.

Answer 6

Yes I would want to know, you should tell her. Before you continue your relationship with him just remember "Once a cheater always a cheater". He'll do the same to you somewhere down the line and you deserve better than that. You very well could end up in her shoes!!!

Answer 7

Ofcourse- safety for one, not to mention betrayal and what have you, but if you have the nerve to cheat on the person who pledged to stay with you forever she has the right to know you've been fooling around so she check herself for STD's early detention is key. Theres no such thing as completely safe sex many things can be transmitted even with protection.

Answer 8

I would want to know. Most definitely. Your boyfriend is playing a dangerous game and he should know the consequences of his actions. There are children involved too so I think you should do the right thing and let the mother of his kids know what a dumba** he is.

Answer 9

Walk away from him with your dignity. Is not your place to tell her about you and him. All that will do is break her heart. He will do that to her soon enough. He will do that to you as well. Sorry to say. If my significant other was having an affair? Yes I would want to know. From him. No one else. That would be added insult to injury. To hear it from someone else. Much less his paramour.

Answer 10

OK who is the one here that is going to look like the looser, You , you fell for this guys story not once but twice, You should be more angry with your self than him because fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. As for telling his wife I will bet dollars to donuts that she is well aware of his playing around, and is so desperate she will put up with this idiot. And what purpose will it serve other than to give you company, as misery loves company. This will serve no purpose to continue on any level