me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years... his ex (who is still in love with my bf) is trying to get back with him by making my life miserable... my bf is getting annoyed by him too. Is there anything I can do (besides fist fighting him) ti keep him away?
2007-01-28 16:22:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Restraining order. That's what girls do. And why doesn't your boyfriend just flat out tell him to get the hell out of his life?
2007-01-28 16:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something you can do. Simply ignore him unless he touches you or your boyfriend. A restraining order (usually) isn't worth the paper its printed on and sometimes (sadly) sends a mixed message (to the receiver) not from the sender! But these sick people sometimes see's it as a way of "hanging on," meaning "he STILL notices me." Meaning, I still affect him IN HIS LIFE, so I'm making a difference! Then, they keep on.
Just make sure you let him SEE how happy you are together (OVER EXAGGERATE IT FOR HIM) just so he can SEE you love each other! If he doesn't get the picture then, just start taking photos of him going wherever you are (all the time), by taking these to the police they will show a pattern of following and harrassment, giving them a 'reason' to talk to him. Just calling the police is usually just good for a complimentary ear, without proof.
2007-01-29 00:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it gets really out of control-call the cops on him and even get a restraning order...
Otherwise, a confrontation is in order with your bf and his ex. He needs to spell out that HE IS NOT INTERESTED SO BACK OFF. Your bf should be speaking up more and putting a stop to this instead of just "getting annoyed by him too". This ex of his is trying to ruin your life on account of HIM, so HE needs to do something about it to protect you and the relationship. This is his and he's ex's battle, not yours.
2007-01-29 00:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be very honest I at one point in my life was like your boyfriends ex (until I grew up & matured). The best thing you BOTH can do & believe me it will get to him is simply ignore him. But if you feel threatned in any way call the police. But most importantly is to have your boyfriend tell him right in front of you that he's no longer interested. In my case it was tell me one thing tell her another, which isn't fair to anyone.
2007-01-29 00:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's called a restraining order. You and your boyfriend get one first thing tomorrow morning if you both mean anything you say.
2007-01-29 00:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by leave me alone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to tell him it is over and to leave the two of you alone. Worst case, the two of you together should tell him so he sees that you are the new boyfriend
2007-01-29 00:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand up to him and tell him he's spending too much time around you guys and to kindly stay away.
2007-01-29 00:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debby B has the right answer. She deserves ten points.
2007-01-29 07:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RESTRAINING ORDER=if you think he is a threat- or a trespass warrant- to keep him away from your property- D
2007-01-29 00:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Witchcraft!
2007-01-29 00:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Raven Fuqfest 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋