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Question

I have try intercourse several times but it hurts me to the point that I can't do it even if I really want to do it.
I am wondering if it is a physical problem or a psychological one?

Even with fingers I feel pain.

I am not young, I am 21.

Answer 1

There are 5 major categories of female sexual dysfunction: sexual desire/interest disorder, sexual arousal disorders, orgasmic disorder, vaginismus, and dyspareunia. Disorder is diagnosed when symptoms cause distress. Some women may not be distressed or bothered by decreased or absent sexual desire, interest, arousal, or orgasm. Overlap is often marked, and almost all women with sexual dysfunction have features of more than one disorder. For example, chronic dyspareunia of vestibulitis often leads to sexual desire/interest and arousal disorders; impaired arousal may make sex less enjoyable or even painful, decreasing the likelihood of orgasm and subsequent spontaneous desire. However, dyspareunia due to impaired lubrication may occur as an isolated symptom in women with a high level of sexual desire, interest, and subjective arousal.


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Answer 2

Are you wet enough? Sometimes when I am too dry I feel some pain during intercourse, even with fingers. Make sure this isn't the case. You could also try some lubricant and see if this helps you out. You could have a problem, so if it continues, you may want to see a doctor :)

Answer 3

It could be a that you uncomfortable and not lubricated enough.
If you are stressed about it or nervous that can make the pain worse.However it could be a medical issue as well. See your gynecologist or regular doctor to rule out anything medical first and then go from there. Its not uncommon to have some trepidation during intercourse if you have had some past trauma.
If you feel that it is psychological as well...See a therapist to try and get to the bottom of it. Take care of your body and your mind.

Answer 4

In a lot of cases like yours, it is a psychological problem, however you should see a gynocologist to make sure that there are no physical problems.

Answer 5

Your heart may be into it, your body doesn't seam to. You just need good long fore play.
Relax, you may be too wound up. I didn't go good the first time or sense.
Masturbate every now and then. Get a feeling for whats going on.

Answer 6

before u plan to have intercourse, try to make the environment good for both of u.. like romantic candlelight dinner, bubblebath, do something that both of u enjoyed most, and please ask ur partner what do u really want him to do on u during foreplay (even its craziest one), dont forget abt the aprodisiac snack and massage session (if u like) , to make sure u r wet enuf and ready to fly away...

Answer 7

if you really feel that you want to do it, it's probably not psychological. maybe you and this person you're doing it with just aren't a good match, sexually.

if you really want to do it, you can try stretching yourself out a little bit using your fingers, try doing it after you do that.

Answer 8

maybe you should go talk to your Gyno... I know its embarrassing but u may have a serious medical problem. Good luck

Answer 9

You probably need more lubrication. Oral sex is a gr8 way to start

Answer 10

why dont you try lubricants every time have intercourse