feelings of deep isolated depression. where u dont have any friends. live by yourself and trying to battle mental illness? i have a despair this will last forever. im 29. im not talking about brief spells of sadness either, where you feel better quickly. i mean prolonged pain, sadness, mental agony. isolation and loneliness..wishing you could get a life and pull yourself together. security, happiness, stabilty, a girlfriend, a purpouse, direction, material wealth...anyone feel me ?
2007-01-28 16:00:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Absolutely...I feel you.
There are A LOT of lonely people in the world. You are not alone, but you feel like you are. When you are in your own head you're "behind enemy lines". At least that is what I call it.
Are you on medication? With what have you been diagnosed?
I have suffered from depression my entire life and have been on and off anti-depressants though-out. They certainly help. However, they don't cure loneliness.
I hope you work. Do you? Are you afraid of people (have Social Phobia's?) These are all things to take into consideration. There are also A LOT of good books out there about loneliness and depression. I have several that helped me, but sent you a link to check them out for yourself. I've read "Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe and it helped.
You've struggled for a long time and it sounds like you're at a turning point. I hope you turn in a Positive Direction. I don't think you'll find any 'magical' answers here...that will have to come from within.
You're doing the right thing by talking about it...
I wish you luck...
p.s. - Leviathan was an Excellent Movie!
2007-01-28 16:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Krisma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find myseld in the same spot with you. Not much activity going on in my life, girlfriend, night life. I find myself hanging out here on the net. There's nothing better for me than to write my problems down and send them to the world to see what they think. One thing's for sure. My problems are nothing...you know why. Because you got problems, they got problems, everyone has problems that's why. My problems are nothing, the're just things to take care of during the day to keep me busy. Be it just working hard to pay that bill or just getting that extra chore done today. I found it hard and still do find facing life in it's own terms a pain in the a** (pardon my English) but I've only got one life to live and time is going faster than I thought. I also have some mental health poblems of my own, and it is a pain, but at this point I find it inexcusable to crutch myself on them. No one out there gives a damn about it, all I have is me. I'm 33 and still look at life like a playground for some reason, but from an adult point of view. I see the bullies, I see the geeks, the basket cases and so forth. Take it day by day. Love yourself before anything, be a little selfish but not at anyone's expence.
2007-01-28 16:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good thing for you to do would be to see a doctor. Ask him if your lonliness and depression is because of an illness and tell him what your are feeling and experiencing. It may be that you are not getting enough sunlight exposure during the day, or you might have irregular blood sugar levels. Do you have a good diet? Too much fast food can drag your body down with fat and toxins that will increase the chance of depression.
After you see a doctor, you may want to see a psychologist who can listen to everything that is bothering you.
2007-01-28 16:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by rlee1185 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sad to see that someone as young as you are is struggling like this; however, i think that there is definitely a way out! fake it 'til you make it. take one baby step at a time, and begin to get out of your house, go for a walk, think about the things you have to be grateful for (even if it's just the fact that you have breath and are not in a wheelchair). i know this sounds easy to say as an outsider looking in, but it will take small actions in the right direction. see if there is counseling available in your area on a sliding scale or at no fee for someone without the adequate funds. you might contact the local human services department in your area and ask for help. hang in there. you have a lot of life left, and time will heal your wounds. you might need medication, which could be prescribed by your family physician. get help now.
2007-01-28 16:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by diamond heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either Major Depressive Disorder or Disthymia. How long have you felt like that?
Ultimately, you should go see a doctor. Things CAN get better, but usually not on their own. Talk therapy, whether supplemented by medication or not, can do wonders.
2007-01-28 18:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. I know. But the world deserves me. When I smile at someone, or say a kind thing, I get it back tenfold. We are necessary.
2007-01-28 16:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by aquiellez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, and meds were required to get me out of the funk.
2007-01-28 16:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do also...but, don't have a mental issue so to speak, I do suffer from depression and had it really bad for years, would not get out of bed, it's really still hard for me now...I don't want to go to bed, but, know I have to get up, then when it's time to get up I don't want too...I raised my kids alone, and when they got where they could drive, I got worse, because I knew I didn't have to leave the house, anything....you are very young, so you have your entire life ahead of you....seek professional help...meds, counseling ect....I did, and though I still have depression, I'm off the meds, my kids are in college, never remarried, just have my animals...even an old friend just dropped by I hadn't seen in years, because I had isolated myself from the world, and my kids in college go with her child at the same school and they told her to come over to me, to get me out, and when I told her I had been isolated for as long as I had and such, she was really great about it, and we went this past weekend to see the kids at college and had a wonderful time...she told me, she was going to get me out...and I was going to get dressed like I used too, and I was going to start living again...so, friends, family ect...help...but, you need to see a counselor, there are free clinics ect. if you don't have the money...hope this helped...but, I'm still battling it every day...like today, is my only day to sleep in and I did, and what do you know, my kids dropped in on me out of the blue, and said, see three days in a row, you have seen me...one comes and works with me on Fridays, and so it was really nice...I miss them, and thought it was bad when they were here, but, it got worse when they left...and lonely, but, I know I have to find myself again...and they are trying to help me...and although they think it's bad I'm off my meds, I now can finally feel, whereas I was depressed yet numb to the world...and my friend thinks it is great I'm off the meds and is trying to help...so, even though I really don't like hanging around anyone, I'm a loner to begin with, like my kids told me, they said, I need to get over it, like I didn't really want to go with her to see the kids at college, not that I didn't but, wanted to go by myself...and they said, get over that, you need to talk with people, you need to socialize...which I'm fine at work, but, it's an act...so, it's different than actually talking with people...interacting socially....I get so bad, that even though I'm really close to my family..my brother's, when they invite me over, it's like a chore more than anything, and they do know it and know about my depression, but, still invite me, even though I go, without really getting dressed, ect...and actually I feel better...they call me every day, just to make sure I'm okay...my kids call every day...but, I know about the purpose, direction ect....as I've tried volunteering ect...even joined a gym, I've yet to go too..but, now that I'm alone, I would love to skip the part of having to meet a man, and the dating and just jump to where we are comfortable and in love and were married...I want marraige again one day after 16 years, I want to be happy, I want to go back to school, but, feel I'm too old, so you arn't...don't let this stop you, you can beat all this and get your fortune and so forth...but, you have to get out, make yourself do it...and if you have forgot the name of it, but, have a friend who has it, where she won't leave the house..and has a real mental disorder, but, she's married, and such...but, we talk alot on the phone, which I can't hear well, so I hate the phone, but, otherwise I wouldn't see her, because where she lives is too far for me to drive and it's really not a safe neighborhood...but, we've known one another most of our lives...but, you have to take baby steps, and then it won't seem so bad...I have gotten my friend out a few times, and she really enjoyed it...so, anything is possible, if you just seek the right help, have someone care for you, and if you don't, find a stranger to be there for you...good luck
2007-01-28 16:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋