They would give up personal happiness just because they want to please their parents. I have three adult kids. I would not think to get involved, unless they were children. But most the men I know are late 20s and early 30's. You are men. Make your own decisions.
2007-01-28 15:51:27 · 20 answers · asked by abbyrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will start by saying that they are not scared but are respect full towards their elders and as for as decision making goes they do take their own decisions . it is only at the time of marriage that they insist approval from the family. It is more about making the bride a part of the family than anything else.
NOW ....why ????
In India spiritual awareness has become traditions that include family traditions and all ...BUT...in short the thought about it is....
when a soul is born in the form of a new born baby it carries with it some very hard habits of its previous lives and three people who can rid the soul of these habits and mold them in new habits ( samskar, in Hindi )and thus put them on the path of
moksha....
are ...MOTHER.....FATHER.....and TEACHER.....( GURU )
and that is why they were treated like GOD .....who alone can free the souls from there karmic debts....
I hope this clears a lot of confusion...
2007-01-30 02:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by pathik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some are some are not. It all depends their upbringing, social background, family culture, education, & place where they live. Usually Indian men coming from big metropolitan cities with a public school education back ground, belonging to middle or upper middle classes, working independently in big concerns/mnc etc don’t bother much about getting scared of their parents although they may listen to the parents point of view in order to give the due respect but will do what they think better for them that why you find many Indian men searching jobs in foreign counties & leave their parents behind for better opportunities, if they were scared they would have never filled so many jobs in your country (sorry I think you are from some other country then India). Some belonging to much backward places in India still are scared of parents & are unable to take independent decisions for them your comments are correct. But mind you I want to stress one thing more that it is not only with Indian men even with Indian women same thing applies. I am 48 years Indian parent of two kids one married daughter & son still very young.
2007-01-28 17:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ,
Being an Indian male i thinik i can answer that question perfectly.Actually what happens in India is that children are overly protected by parents even when they become adults at say age 20.Thus what happens is it stems them from acting independent and the guys resort to parents for everything.Also the average Indian male stays with his parents throughout in some cases even after marriage you must have heard about the joint family system in India so all these factors form the answer i guess.
2007-01-28 16:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tifossi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r Daughter or sister suffered in the hands of these money evils then only u wil know the value of this law.u know arjun singh has harased his daugher in law, y dont u file a PIL and get him arrested? i think u don't read newspaper or watch TV where by thousands of women are burnt by evil men for the sake of money every day. Next, Liberal US culture in India will create people like Bush and Paris Hilton.Hang people for sleeping on the street because tourist might not like it. Till women become economically independent, such laws are required as we see too many of dowry deaths, tortures and female infanticide. It is a fact that as laws get more stringent so does the abuse of such laws for private gain, unless the law is targeted better it will not have the desired effect. There is a need to prevent the educated and professional women from monopolising the use of laws meant to serve the distressed and suffering woman in low income or middle class section of people. Legislation is not always the solution to a social problem. There should be a limit to how much freedom people wish to surrender to the state. As it is with the DV Act the state has entered into the home and bedroom of its citizens.
2016-03-15 01:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We Indians are living in undivided families. Here father is the head of the family and is in charge of the family. He is to provide us with food, shelter and other needs. Any act committed by any member of the family will affect the whole family. When the head of the family shoulder this responsibility, others have to respect him. Naturally, even after becoming adults, the affection shown and the responsibilities shouldered by the parents are reciprocated by us. Parents will not make trouble for their own kids. Hence, there is no wrong in following the advice of the parents.
However, in modern days, there is no joint family and the relations and love and affection are lacking day by day. Naturally, the following generations will not think of their parents.
2007-01-28 19:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by RAGHAVAN N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just the respect to our parents that Indian men r scared of their parents.
2007-01-28 18:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kalpesh R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the probable answer to this question would be that indian man r more responsible and they respect the decisions made by their parents and thats apparently the indian culture to respect ur elders.In no sense we can say tht indian man r afraid of their parents but instead its the respect.
2007-01-28 16:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by viral_mehta35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a matter of them being afraid of their parents. Indians have a high moral code, and to disgrace there parents is not something they want to do. It is a cultural difference. I think it's nice to a certain extent.
It is out of respect, love and honor. Not fear.
2007-01-28 15:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by trishnh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just like asian... my tradition is let's say.. it's like we have to pay for all of what our parents did for us. THEY want us to be proud of them (kinda insist and i think they didn't do it for their children in honest because they want something from what they've done). i didn't mean that i don't respect them, it's just i think that we don't need to show that feeling every single time and to everyone, what for? we have to respect every single thing they do and say. everything is has to be shown just at the outside. we have to show our respect (even we don't) to them. if not, they will say that we, the children, are not being polite and not respecting them as parents and then they got disapointed to us.. for children who don't want to make their parents sad, mad, or disapointed, they will do EVERY and ANYTHING their parents ask. NOT FAIR isn't it? we can't do something we like and really want it if they say NO to it. we can't just live our own life.. they have to be involved in their children life. and that's su*k. it's like we're not allowed to have voice.
and i'm so fu*king fed up with this tradition.. but what can i do? i'm asian and i cant just ignore that fact. if i'm goin to US or europe, people still notice me as an asian people.. that's sad... one thing.. i'll never ever treat my children like my parents treat me till now.. (ok, maybe im a li'l bit extreme, cause that's what happen in my big family. maybe not too extreme like that in other family or countries) that's the strict one..
2007-01-28 16:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by No*Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not scared of their parents .they respect them and they know that their parents have seen the world better than them and they can take better decisions for them
2007-01-28 16:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋