How can I show or tell my parents I am in love with my fiance?

Question

I feel like I just want to run away sometimes and follow the path Christ has for me. Sometimes I feel my family doesn't see what I feel that my fiance and I have spiritually. I have seen Christ move so much in our relationship because we spend time praying and reading scripture together. I just don't understand why my mom would be the one who would say, "I appreciate that he [my fiance] prays for me but Jenny he is not right because of his culture...." For you information, my fiance is a Youth Pastor who is from Ghana. I am tired of my mom pointing out other guys to me when I know I am in love with this man. To me this one seems to be the one I plan to be with the rest of my life. If you have any good advice please let me know what I can do. Thanks!

Answer 1

Spiritually and religiously a Ghanaian Christian is the same as an American Christian, an Australian Christian - any Christian.

Ghanaian culture isn't a world away from the cultures of American and European nations and in many ways is superior. Many values which have been lost in the Western world are still held in high regard in Ghana - honesty, integrity, family values, care and consideration, respect.

Your Mum is of course doing what all mothers do and that is to do what they think is best for their children. You may not agree and your mother may not be right but she's concerned for you and is doing what she thinks is right.

Talk openly and honestly with your parents, tell them how you feel about this man and allow them to express their concerns. Take on board what they have to say and address their concerns in an honest and rational manner - put thier minds at ease.

I can honestly say that every Ghanaian I've met (a lot of them) have been wonderful, upstanding people.

Maybe you could research a little about the Ghanaian culture and explain to your parents that it's a culture of hard-work, honesty and one in which self comes after others.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Good luck to you my Dear - I will remember you in my prayers.

You did not mention your age - if you are over 21, I say go with your heart. If under, you need to wait and see - we all change enormously during those first few post-high school years.

May God be with you.