Girls only please?

Question

Ok this is a medical Q and it has to do with the nether region so please don't read on if you don't want to.
I have been in a sexual relationship for 2 yrs with my BF and its great...except i cant orgasm i have no idea why i just get to a certain point then all feeling disappears...please help its torture

Does any one else have this problem

Im 18 and i never have had an orgasm...

...not even by myself

Answer 1

Concentrate and keep going..tell your bf don't stop by talking to him, "F U"..

Answer 2

Well, I can't through intercourse, but I do with oral sex. I had an awesome one today when my bf was stimulating my clit with his tongue while he was fingering me. He used 2 fingers and was thrusting them kind of hard. It didn't take long to orgasm and it was probably the best one I've ever had. If you're getting to a certain point and then the feeling goes away...does he stop doing whatever he's doing? I've had that problem with my bf where I'll start to climax and he'll stop so I don't go all the way into orgasm. Have you ever orgasmed before with him or could it be that maybe you're embarrassed about it? That happens sometimes with some people.

Answer 3

I used to have this problem, first off it's a HUGE thing if you aren't comfortable. When I was younger I used to only be able to have sex while my parents were gone for a few minutes, in the car, etc so there was no way I could relax enough to orgasm. Next, make sure your partner stimulates you before you have sex so you can warm up. For me, I had numerous partners and never orgasmed until I masturbated. Because honestly, if you don't know your body or what makes yourself feel good, there's no way someone else can do that for you or for you to know what feels the best. So I would suggest thinking about something that turns you on and masturbate...it might not work at first but with practice it hopefully will. And most importantly, I can never orgasm through sex if I am not on top. For me, it's all about clitoral stimulation so if I'm on top (and for a lot of girls) it's easy to orgasm by moving back and forth so the clit can rub the guys stomach, also if he leans forward a little that feels even better because its closer. There could also be underlying factors like if you are religious, your parents lectured on no sex before marriage, if you are really even physically or emotionally attracted to him, and also if you use a condom it can impair your thoughts like "gosh I hope this thing doesn't break, what if I get pregnant", etc. So for me, I needed birth control (but both should get checked for std's if not using a condom), sex with me on top, practice with myself, and time / no rush / private space for me to finally have one. Also, a lot of times I experience that my boyfriend is doing something that feels good but he randomly changes what hes doing and i'm thinking "whyyyy" so don't be scared to tell your man "that feels really good, keep doing that" because otherwise he probably isnt sure and is going to try various things. Good luck and hope I helped! P.s. also try different positions, because doggy and anal sex make a lot of girls I know orgasm because there is so much more touching of sensitive areas

Answer 4

I had your problem when I was around your age, too. If I am not mistaken, a lot of women do not experience orgasm in their lives, so it's actually normal. However, you are still young and if you want to find out if you can ever have orgasm, I would recommend you to buy a vibrator and use it to explore your sensitive spots around your private area. Clitoris is a very sensitive area for all women, next would be the G-spot. We all know where the clitoris is, but as for the G-spot, you have to find it yourself (located inside of vagina).

Another thing that I would recommend you to do is to be on the top when you and your BF are engaging sexual intercourse. That way you get to be in control of the speed and the pleasurable feeling when the penis is touching your sensitive spots (don't think it's selfish, coz man's penises only recognize thrusting/stroking motion, warmth..meaning, they are not as complicated as woman's sex organ).

Clitoris stimulation + penile penetration is the key to have organism.

Answer 5

A lot of women don't orgasm during sex. Most women can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation. Try some foreplay. Oral sex should definitly give you an orgasm because it is concentrated right on the clit. Also, during sex, have your boyfriend, or you rub your clit, this could help. Different sex positions can help you find your g-spot which will definitly help you orgasm. Sometimes it just takes a while to find the "spot" and trying different things can help out :) Goodluck!

Answer 6

hi, becuz you said "girls" only, i'm guessing you're young. my suggestion is to talk to a trusted friend, an older friend, that can ask you some questions. its hard to answer based on the limited info, other factors come into play. i will say this,, and plz don't take it the wrong way,, all women are different and you need to know you're own body. if thata makes you uncomfortable, think of it as an experiment to help your boyfriend so you can coach him. but if you can achieve orgasm by other means, then its safe to say its not a medical issue. but if you can't, then you may want to visit your gyno just to make sure all is ok. be patient with yourself and relax,, focus on things that make you frisky and if it feels good, don't be shy to tell your b/f what you enjoy (=

Answer 7

I've had this problem. All I can say is practice, practice, practice. For me, it turned out it's very tough to have an orgasm before my guy does if we're doing it missionary style. Try different positions.

And not to be too graphic, but maybe you need additional stimulation (clitoral play during intercourse). Maybe it would help if his body was closer to yours so you could feel his chest against yours or further away so you don't get overly stimulated. You just have to keep trying different things, sequences, stimuli to find what brings you to orgasm during intercourse.

Answer 8

ok girl im 18 too but you can orgasm during anything not touching (fingering) oral or sex !! oh man your missing out !! but ill tell you what try alot of foreplay before you do anything make him tease you ! like have him run his hands all over you slowly and tease your nether region !! also when fore play is comming close to end in sex when you are doing the deed consintrate on him inside you .. (it really hard sometimes for me to orgasim during sex) but it could help.. and i know for me i get major awesome orgasims when he plays with my clit and oral is a great way to orgasim .. also if your not into oral ( you shoud try it i wasnt so sure either! at first) you can try different positions can help in sex orgasims try doggie style vaginal entry of course this allows for deeper penatration. also if your on birth control and you 2 are both faithful to each other and no stds then its like 10x better without a condom!! the feeling is great!! well hope this helps ... happy orgasims to *** .. hopefully

Answer 9

Well, if youve ever had an orgasm, you probably know what gets you off. I would suggest trying a few things on your own to see if anything has changed. if you can get yourself off, then maybe you need to inform your man a little - he obviously isnt doing it for you. Most guys are pretty receptive to instruction, so Id give it a go. Be creative - you may just be getting bored.

Answer 10

I'm having the same issue,but i kno that I came because I see it for myself,I just never feel it.I get aggravated when me and my friends are talking about sex and they say how good an orgasm fels,but I can't relate.I mean the sex is good,but I cant feel my orgasm.And also,not to sound racist,but I honestly think that masturbation is white girl stuff and that it's very disgusting.

Answer 11

im 15 but have read millions of magazines on orgasms...sum people i guess with some people it doesnt happen..maybe u shud get this little excersice thing..it helps you have long and good orgasms..go online and type it in and theres a website that ships it to you..