ok, my husban is on blackpeoplemeet.com, I use to know his e-mail address to all his sight and he change it. Now everymorning he gets on the computer to this site, he has friends on here, lady friends. I told him I did not like, his answers was i'm not doing anything but talking and he says they are funny. and at night he is always on line with how ever. I got where I do not care anymore he going to do what want to any ways. But now he wont let me see anything on his page. I let him see everything on my page. I do not say anything to anybody. I always respect my husband. It got me going on line and seeing if he get on the line again. He does this every morning and night, and friday when he is off work. Because we work athe same place. I work m-fri, and he works su-thur. Heres the thing he do not go anywhere. He works 12pm to 8:30pm. And I work 8am to 5PM. But he goes to work with me at 8am, because we work so far away, he just stay at work till its time for him to work. Help me pleas
2007-01-28 15:42:47 · 21 answers · asked by katherinebrown628 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get one of those key logger programs, some of them are free, and you can see what he has been saying
2007-01-28 15:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the other woman to an engaged man and didnt even know it, we both have office jobs and would spend the entire day mon thru fri IM-ing each other, and i found out he was engaged by entering his chat name into google. it brought up a list of sites he had posted on, dating sites and whatnot, and in one of his personal ads, he had stated he was engaged looking for one night stands. So if you know his email address or the handle he normally uses, try entering it into google. or like another poster mentioned, a key logger could do the trick, given you install it on the same computer.
Just a question, if your man truly is cheating, would you truly want to know? reason i ask is that I am in a situation where i am the other woman, the wife was informed of me a year or so ago, but the relationship has continued, and i'm just looking for feedback from wives points of views
2007-01-29 00:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look online for a keylog...then you can record his key strokes...i mean if i ain't nothing then why can't u see it! whats the big deal? also your cookies go to your c drive documents and settings...make a folder there...make it read only archive and hidden (it might be under the user the computer is registered to) you have to right click and go to properties to do this..now the trick is girl he can't clear his history no more!!!! now you can see all his cookies and what sites he goes to...i will most likely keep him logged in! very important you make it read only....when he is gone girl u go in and check...because i have to say a womens intuition is often right...you have bad feelings for a reason...now u asked him...he is being funny denying stuff...now u have to snoop..you have to know whats going on...you have a right....oh a keylogger is just a program that catches a screen image of what he is doing!!! you will get passwords chats and all! another idea is set his *** up! i bet his profile is not private on that site...you could search by name age location u might come up with something..if you know his name you could set him up and pretend to be someone else. bottom line is cheating is cheating and u don't deserve it! when ur feeling down girl i want u to chant "i am women hear me roar"!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 23:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need to sit down and talk!! If you work Friday and he does not, you don't know whether he is cheating or not but more importantly, if he is going to a dating site and won't let you see anything on his page, he is not committed to you and is only there for his convenience. Best advice if you work close together there, look for another job so that you are separate there and then either kick him out or move out yourself. and find someone who is so busy being happy with you he doesn't have time for those sites!!
2007-01-28 23:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the deal? You left so much out...but the idea is clear:
He could just like playin, an you know most them girls on that site playin too. Aint nothin for real.
OR
its different now and he don't wanna let you know. It got serious,
You must worry bout him leavin to meet her.
Just look at the cars mileage, minus what you drove (if you drove)
is how much he drove.
if thats kinda psycho sounding, jus ask him...but be careful that ***** lie straight to ye face if he really think it'll make you leave. So be relaxed and casual...Or, if you REALLY want it straight from him, give him a reason to just confess. Make like you dont care what he doin.
2007-01-29 00:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Zanzibar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he goes on these websites where you meet people from the interent then yes he is probably cheating. Hire a private investigator. That will find proof. Also there is software where you can record his actions. I would start hiring a lawyer and get a divroce.
Its all about trust and honesty, once that goes, then what else are you standing on.
2007-01-28 23:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by danielschmidt94521 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure if i would call it cheating. but he is talking to other girls, which is almost as bad. Ask him straight out about what he's doing. tell him that ur marriage is at steak here and if he wants to keep doing this then maybe things between you might change. maybe theres a way u could look over his shoulder some time and yell at him when you notice him talking to another girl. that's not right...whether hes just talking to her online or actually meeting you. let him know that it isn't right and let him know that your not gunna take that from him.
2007-01-28 23:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by ayyyoooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he goes to work with u at 8am??but he doesnt have2b at work till 12 pm what does he do for 4hours?? theres always time for some1to cheat believe me theyll make the time.if hes always on the computer he may b im some1 idont know get Google on ur computer an after hes been on it browse the timeline check out what all hes done. also the history
2007-01-28 23:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by undecided 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is on the top of the computer where it says file got view and go to tool bars and the word history will show up and you can then see for your self what he has been doing on the computer because the computer keeps a history of what is being looked at that if he did not erase it i hope this will help you out
2007-01-28 23:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need a life away from the computer. Bowling, hiking, anything thats fun. As a wife I belive you have a right to know what he is up to on the computer. Tell him point blank, if he needs to keep secrets he is up to no good....so he has a choice, he either chooses secrets or being an open honest husband............or your walking
2007-01-28 23:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by kitty_kat4602000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't go anywhere he is probably not cheating. But why don't you trust him. I spend a lot of my free time on the computer and I'm not cheating I'm just bored. Maybe you should try to spice up your relationship so he won't be so interested in the computer.
2007-01-28 23:49:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋