My X g/f and I dated off and on for the past 7 months and live together for 3 months.We are 23 and 22. In November we got pregnant.We have sonce lost the baby 2.5 months in due to miscarriage.She found out that I cheated on her back on October when we were going through some really tough times.After we got pregnant I realized she was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.I was planning a proposal and everything. Anyway, we went through a pretty bad break up and I never thought we would talk again.I told her I didn't want to talk for awhile.She called me and since then we have been talking everyday.She moved home with her parents and came down to stay with me the other day while she finished up some school stuff despite her family telling her not to see me at all. She says the reason she talks to me is so I don't feel sad,or mad at myself.I've got on my knees and cried to this girl begging for forgiveness.Is that an excuse?Is there a chance she will come back. i love her
2007-01-28 15:35:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like she'll forgive you ... but it sounds like you need to mature much more.
1. Her family needs to forgive you. Talk with them. What do they like about you ... what don't they like about you ... is there anything you can do to earn her families trust???
Sounds like work doesn't it??? It is, but it's gratifying work. When you approach the relationship from this aspect, you'll mature. The hard steps to ask for forgivness, and carry out a penance ... well, you'll be a better person for yourself, your baby, and for her. Should you reunite this relationship, these steps will lessen future arguments, and lessen the chance of you cheating on her again.
Should you decide that this is too much work ... then you're being honest; a creep, but an honest creep at least --- and the truth will set all free.
2007-01-28 16:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She initiated talking to you, so at least in her heart, there is a chance, but that's not what you should focus on right now. Speaking as a dad of a daughter, it is her parents thoughts you should be focusing on right now. You may be 23, but son, you've still got some growing up to do. That's not a bad thing, we all are maturing throughout our lives....but until you know you need it, you're not mature enough to handle a lifelong committed relationship.
But don't do it to impress her parents....do some growth for your own personal well being. Work on you; find out why you would resort to cheating in a relationship, and then excise that from your character. Try basing your relationships on something other than your groin. Develop your character so there will be a day when her parents can see you and be your advocates to her to get you two back together.
If you are serious about spending the rest of your life with her, remember this, because it is as true as the day is long, and ummarried folk try to deny this...to their detriment: When you marry, you marry the ENTIRE FAMILY. Her life will be utter torment if you two get together and her parents dispise you. She will feel torn apart every waking moment....and kids will only make that 10 times worse. So become a guy she doesn't have to make excuses to her parents for.
2007-01-29 00:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the best way to find out. Go to your local jeweler and get a nice engagement ring and ask her to marry you. If she says yes, then go to the courthouse and get a marriage license. Plan the wedding before the birth of your next child. If she says no, then you've got your answer and move-on. But, the next time you screw around, use a condom and make sure she is protected so you don't take three other people through what you three have gone through.
2007-01-28 23:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, give her space and stay in touch. If you truly love her, she will see it. No guarantee. Be there for your child and shows her you want to be part of her life. Her family and your gf will see how good you are. Be genuine and honest. You will get frustrated at time but you need to show compassion and love. Good luck!
2007-01-28 23:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is still talking to you she might want you back but watch out and try not to get your hopes up to soon cause she might just be keeping you on the back bunner like holding on to you and making sure your not with anybody else so incase she doesn't find anyone else know what im saying? just be careful and good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 23:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by lins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her, then you should do whatever to get back in good graces with her family. If they don't approve of you, then something is wrong.
2007-01-28 23:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is a chance you have to earn her trust again and stick by her and understand her feelings no matter what
2007-01-28 23:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a cahnce. i went back to my bf but he didnt really accept me. just try it. go up to her and tell her. please do it for a good reason.thanks!
2007-01-28 23:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by kat jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she loves you enough she will come back to you.
2007-01-28 23:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋