What's wrong with me? Should I just give up on friends?

Question

I've tried everything everyone's told me, I've been outgoing, friendly, patient, I talk to people in classes,joined clubs, I say hi to people every chance I get, I plan my day around bumping into people I know to have a chat, pretty much anything anyone can think of. I was alone in high school, my mom, the school coundelor and everyone told me it would get better when i moved to a new city to go to university, but it didn't. I meet new people all the time and even have a few regular friends but i always get forgotten about. I don't get invetied to parties (don't tell me thier not imprtant because they are) Í sit in my apartment on weekends. Every move I make is trying to find someone to be with but that doesn't happen often. I act relaxed and pretend I'm not lonely and desperate when I do have people around but they still lose interest. I have hobbies and talk to people with the same hobbies (music). Should I just give up? Is there anything left to try? 'm tired of being patient

I can't have parties or pets in my apartment. I've been alone so long I can't stand it. It's not like I want to be the center of attension, I just see other people i group with people and I don't see why i can't be like that. Other people just hang out like it's not a big deal to have someone to hang out with!

And why don't people ever go out of their way like I do for them?

Answer 1

wow thats tough. just by reading that i already think that u would make a wonderful friend.m only 14 and what im saying probably doesnt matter.............oh well. i wish u the best though.

Answer 2

I don't have any friends either. I've got used to it.
My problem is that I think people won't like me anyways, so I don't go out of my way to meet or make friends.
Sorry I can't help, but I know how you feel.