I know its way early to talk about halloween but I have a halloween party for my daughter every year for years now and this comming up halloween I want to have a monster mash dance. but one mother (my daughters best friend's mom ) said "my daughter is not going to dance with a boy!!!' what do you peoples think about that? am I wrong? about letting them dance?
2007-01-28 15:01:27 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Halloween
Unreal isn't it?
Call it a "Monster Mash Party" and invite everyone you want.
2007-01-28 15:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will your daughter be starting 6th or 7th grade in October? Those sorts of things did not begin until 7th grade when I was a kid, including school dances. Most parties that friends had that involved anything like that also started happening around that year. Even though I went to a 'middle school' that had 5th-8th grade in the same building, there was a huge difference between the 5th/6th graders (who still had recess) and the 7th/8th graders. I guess you could have the party but some parents (like the mom you mentioned) might have a problem with it. Personally, I'd wait one more year but maybe you could pull it off. If you invite a few parents, supervise things and don't allow any 'slow dancing' I think it might be ok.
2007-01-28 15:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think they are too young to have a dance or go to a dance. Even babies like to dance.
Now if you are afraid hormones will take over, then hormones are going to be present whether or not they dance/go to a dance.
There is also the fact that the kids might not even be interested in the opposite sex at that point.
As a mother, what is worse? A hormone swinging daughter feeling they are being treated unfairly by her mother or a hormone swinging kid who gets to get rid of some energy dancing in the presence of a responsible adult?
p.s. We have two daughters that are now adults. We allowed them to go to elementary school dances and birthday dances. Neither broke any of the ten commandments, came home pregnant, or become loose floozies later in life. I knew and trusted my daughters. If I didn't trust them, my answer most likely would be different, especially if they didn't know right from wrong.
2007-01-28 15:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god people! I'm 54 years old and went to my first dance in 6th grade. It's a dance, it's a party, it's not an orgy! Most of the kids at that age are going to be too shy to dance anyway! Get over yourselves!
And by the way, it's never too early to think about Halloween. I just went shopping today for some electronic parts for one of the Halloween gags I set up for my haunted house every year.
2007-01-28 15:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No of course you are not wrong.
I was lucky enough to be one of the parents chosen to attend all my kids end of year Grade 6 camps. This camp is like a goodbye to Grade school and a moving on to Secondary School. The kids think at this age they are very grown up and have a dance at the last night. This is of course supervised by the adults and yes the boys and girls did dance together. Well some of them did, the more forward ones who think they are going on 20. One of the mums who was on camp with me had a daughter on camp. She was one of the ones who wanted to dance with the boys. The mum said to me what should i do, my advise was let her dance as she is supervised and if you butt in she will hate you forever. She took that advise and got me to spy on her daughter for her as on camp the parents are only there to help and one 3 are invited, if we hadnt been there we would not have seen what was happening as many of the other mums couldnt.
What I am getting at is that as long as the kids have supervision of course they should be allowed to dance with each other. You step in if they overstep the boundaries and start kissing or touching each other up, but what harm is there in dancing. I think some parents can be over protective. If the mum of the one that said this doesnt want her daughter to go then she doesnt have to go. I would just make sure the invitations show that it is not an orgy and the dance is to be supervised by adults.
I hope your daughter has a great halloween party.
2007-01-28 15:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you have to dance and have a LOT of adults there it really should be fine. Just make sure it's well organized with other activities like games and sit down to each cake and ice cream...it's really not that much different than any other birthday party they had with they were younger at a pool or just a party you invite the whole class too. when I was in six grade they had a moving up dances when were where about to go to the 7th grade but now they have changed it and the 5th and 6th graders have there on little dances all the time.
2007-01-28 15:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by trace862004 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how its done. If they are dancing with the opposite sex close or sexy like then way wrong, but if its just a bunch of kids all dancing together like just playing and doing the monster mash then its fine. There are lots of fun games that can also be done at this "Monster Mash". Surely doing the monster mash dance is fine, but maybe you should shy away from 50 cents grinders.
2007-01-28 15:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by stephbb32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. Just as long as they're responsible adults around everything will be fine...some parents are just weird and want their kids in a bubble and never let them out...going to a dance with someone you like is all about growing up, I'm sure your daughter is responsible enough to make the right decisons, besides, she's a 6th grader, nothing will happen as long as there is someone there being the boss, and when I say "boss" I don't mean be a "you know what" Just let them have fun, there kids.
2007-01-28 15:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they are not too young as long as you take responsibility and chaperon the party/dance. In our school they have a 5th and 6th grade dance. My daughters went (with chaperone's) and it is a fond memory for them. My youngest went with the same boy both years even though they were not boyfriend/girlfriend. Now my oldest is 22 and my youngest is 16. They seem to think I was a cool mom because I too tried to help them socialize and build lasting friendships. Have fun !! The kids grow up and leave way before you are ready.
2007-01-28 15:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by ILOVELUCYFAN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong...if it makes your daughter happy then its all good. Also, some people may say its rediculous because she's only in the 6th grade but, think about it she's going to grow up and do it anyways so what is the problem. Seriously, its not like she's going to do anything like "sex" she probably isn't that sluty. Just talk to your daughter and keep an eye on her and if any other parents have a problem with it then they don't have to let there children come.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 15:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had dances at school when I was in 6th grade. Most boys wouldn't dance at all. Just make sure that you are supervising and have other games/activities to do for those who don't wish to dance. If the mother of that girl doesn't want to worry, invite her to come along and help with things and keep an eye on her own daughter.
2007-01-28 15:07:24 · answer #11 · answered by kayle_rose 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋