I was laid off from work, I got sick in June, that lasted thru-out the summer, I had to have two surgeries and was in and out of the hospital, violently ill. And to top it all off, I found out the reason my ex bf wanted to remain friends right before all this. He was seeing the mother of his child. This girl he didnt want to have anything to do with. I helped himovercome his fear of having this child. I helped him thru depression, suicidal thoughts, and when I was in the hospital, I got a phone call from this girl telling me he has been seeing her and that he never loved me or was attracted to me. I tried to confront him, and he was so cold, and hurtful. I dont understand how he turned this way. He told me never to call him again and he had no reason to talk to me anymore. He never spoke badly to me until this. I felt so horrible, he knew I was sick. I am surprised I have made it this far.Its been 6 months and I cant let it go.I feel degrated, used, very low about myself. How to cope
2007-01-28 14:54:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How horrible. I'm so sorry you have gone through all this! The very best thing you could do for yourself now is to get counselling. You could talk to your doctor for a referral, perhaps. That man doesn't deserve you! I'm a passive person generally, and don't even know you... and even I want to slap him! I don't blame you for being angry and hurt. The counselling can help you learn to channel it, so it doesn't become destructive. Please take care of yourself and get the help you need. Best of luck to you. :)
2007-01-28 15:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were more of a theropist for him then a "girlfriend". I am sorry BOYS are dogs. You do need to move on and find yourself a good MAN. I know its easier said then done. I was in a 18 month relationship that ended bad. I couldn't sleep, eat or be alive. I ended up in the hospital, then dated alot of loosers until one day I met a man. We have had a great relationship for the past 11 years. You will find love when you least expect it.
For you to heal, you need to forgive. Forgive him for treating you so wrongly and move on, their are so many better people out there for you. It will happen! Good Luck!
2007-01-28 15:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by KAT 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about what had happened.
I can sure feel what you feel. I wish I was there to give you a hug.
Take a good spin on what you have gone through. Everyone will go through live up and down. You were at your down but physical and emotional. But there will be up side.
It is a time for testing your courage and character. There is something better out there for you. You will find someone who will destine to cherish you. Cause you will be wiser to pick someone who is not a loser.
2007-01-28 15:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you ever need to vent or just talk IM me.
2007-01-28 15:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋