am at the end of my tether at the moment...a person in my life is not being nice and has not been for the last decade but you learn to live with certain situations and then you get brave enough to start the change...is it worth it? in my heart i know it is...
2007-01-28 14:46:32 · 27 answers · asked by darajay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you to every answer
2007-01-28 15:16:07 · update #1
If somebody keeps putting you down, you will soon feel down about your own self. Negativity is contagous and for your sake, you need to remove yourself from the situation. Maybe for a while, let things have time to change and the one doing the putting down to realize you're not so bad and they miss you. Maybe for good. YOU are a person who deserves to be loved, cared for, respected and treated right. If you aren't getting that, only you can decide that you are going to start demanding it. You will get it! If not from one person, from another. Be strong and take care of yourself. If you can't love yourself enough to expect respect, how can you expect others to love you enough? It's your turn and it's your time! Get on it! Time's not standing still!
2007-01-28 14:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough! You don't need this so called 'person' in your life. Get out now and start living for yourself. 10 years is a long time but how about having the next 10 years free from this abuse?
If this person has any feeling for you they wouldn't be 'abusing' you. They are not worth the next 10 years of your life!
It IS worth it. there is some one out there ready to give you all the love and caring you have been without. GO FOR IT! hold your head up high matey
Good luck x
2007-01-30 00:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Cockneyrebel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know in yourself it is worth taking the plunge of change and you also know how scary it can be or you think you know, when you have been with someone as long as you have they become as much a habbit as everything else but from my own experience if you can just get through the initial break up and see the light at the other end then you will realise that it was worth it and life has so much to offer and you have missed so much along the way, when people treat you not nice that is usually their own insecurities and they know no other way then to pull you down cause that way you will be so low and unconfident you will never leave them and that is their fear not yours so go out there start living and enjoy the rest of your life for you as you not somebodies door mat good luck and have fun you deserve it.
2007-01-29 09:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too was in a similar situation with someone who was verbally aggressive - a bullie but this Christmas I decided enough was enough and that that person and his wife ( sister) that I was not prepared to take it any more it was met with shock as if no one had seen what had been going on for the past 20 years, the relationship with my sister and her family is no longer the same but I now feel relieve that I will no longer have to face this bullie any more and every day the relationship with my sister improves.
I have not seen or spoken to this bullie since and i feel so much relief
2007-01-29 06:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too left a violent partner.I had years of mental and physical abuse.In the end I decided to start a new life.We deserve to be happy and to be treated with the upmost respect.I left my country with my 2 kids and nothing.I didn't even take my coat.I went into a women's refuge.I spent 6 months there,and then got a 3 bedroom house,and help to furnish it.I have never looked back.I have a fantastic man now,who treats my daughters like his own.It is scary making the move to leave.But I have never looked back.Don't waste your life with someone like that.I wish you all the best.Be strong and positive.There are a lot of 'survivors' on here.
2007-01-29 05:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel my ex husband physically and mentally abused me for a good two years. At first i thought it was my fault and after i left him i started realising it wasnt and that i did nothing to deserve it. now my i live hundreds of miles away from him with my 4 year old and my life is worth living again.i am now enjoying every bit of my life even being a mum and i have someone who treats me right .i say go for it make the change as it will only get worse if you dont.
2007-01-29 04:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by victoria m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have kept quiet for your own reasons, all this time.
But life is not easy going and gets frustrating when such a thing is bothering you for a long time.
You cannot achieve your full potential as something is annoying you throughout.
Confront that person. Confront your fear of expecting the worst when you do so. Otherwise you will never get to lead a normal life.
2007-01-28 23:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tashamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, my husband makes me feel like I can't do anything right. Although he travels and is not home to take care of the house our child. He gets so made when I pay bills and nothing is left over for him to ride the rodes. I am at the end of my rope as well. I know we love each other, but loving each other and being in love are two different things.
So you have to figure out which kind of love you are in. Good luck.
2007-01-28 22:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have went through so much pain with this person, then why are you still allowing yourself to be treated like that? How much more will you take from this person, if this person has not shown you that he has changed one bit.
It is time to move on now. Start thinking about your plans in life, rather than being a door mat.
2007-01-28 22:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is worth it. Once the belittling and verbal abuse stops you will grow even stronger than the strength it takes to leave the situation in the first place. And once you do leave a bad situation you will know better than to get into that again. Let's hope
2007-01-28 22:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by pottermuddobber 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋