I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a month already. I've always been faithful to him and I know I love him with all my heart. However, I left my whole family at another state to be with him and now I'm applying at his college. I see myself having kids with him and having a house with him. I see us getting married and spending the rest of my life with this person and I know he wouldn't lie about feeling the same way. Did I make the right decision in being with him.
2007-01-28 14:39:12 · 12 answers · asked by MaoAce7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a month already. I've always been faithful to him and I know I love him with all my heart. However, I left my whole family at another state to be with him and now I'm applying at his college. I see myself having kids with him and having a house with him. I see us getting married and spending the rest of my life with this person and I know he wouldn't lie about feeling the same way. Did I make the right decision in being with him. It's not that I have second thoughts, it's just that I'm afraid of getting hurt or afraid that we might not make it.
2007-01-28 14:49:06 · update #1
You said "I love him with all my heart"....what does that mean to you? I think it means a comittment, through thick and thin. Don't be scared of the future, everyone will endure hard times. My wife and I left our home state, away from our families, but now we've started our own family, and our parents are proud. Go to college, this will build some stability in your life as far as work/income goes. It sounds like you are making the right decision. If you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him, like you said, then why are you asking? Everyone is afraid of getting hurt, but sometimes you have to take some risk. Sometimes that risk pays off great dividends.
2007-01-28 14:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by MattyG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Did he ask you to move there with him? Has he told you of any plans to get married in the future? If he has, then great. If he hasn't, then you need to pipe down a little and relax on this fantasy of yours. There's nothing wrong with moving to another college, provided that it offers the area of study that you wish to pursue. But being away from each other might've been the best thing for you. I hope you're not losing your identity, which would be totally unhealthy. Make sure you have a life outside of him. And make sure you finish school before you get married. If you don't graduate, and you wind up a wife with kids, you'll probably regret it later. Good luck.
2007-01-28 14:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mirch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you what, from the people I've known who has followed their significant other to college, it has either been the death of the relationship, or made it stronger and they've gotten married. Look at it more as you're getting a college education rather than being closer with your boyfriend. This may help you look at things. If something does happen and you break up, you can always move back. Don't every put the boyfriend in front of your family.
2007-01-28 14:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by glassflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell you what the right decision for you is. If you've followed your heart and you are happy,.. then I say you have absolutely done the right thing.
Your family will always, always be there for you. When you're presented with the opportunity at true love, even if it's the possibility, you should take it. The chance may not present itself for a long time, if ever.
It's hard to leave family and you'll second-guess yourself at first, but stick to it and it'll all pay off. Best of luck to the both of you!
2007-01-28 14:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Justin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, these types of relationships are HARD to decide. There's one thing I've learned about love and it's one hell of a powerful emotion, however it doesn't last forever if you don't take care of it. So, only time will tell, if he leaves you then I guess you sacrificed your relationship with your family for nothing, but if you stay together I suppose you got what you wanted. Family is important, but one thing that most people forget is that anyone can make a new family with any person they want to. I wish you the best of luck!! And personally, if given the scenario, I probably would've done the same thing, lol.
2007-01-28 14:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by lilhomy4life626 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you really feel the feeling is mutual. However, you should not let your family feel left out. Your family can help you with your relationship now and since you are planning to marry this guy in the future, wouldn't it be great if he is close to your family as well. Once you get married, your family will be his family too and vice versa.
2007-01-28 14:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by bethcelis88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In love u take your chances. which you did. you believe in something, and you are pursuing it. you love him, you're with him. you are both working towards common goals together. you are slowly seeing the most beautiful feeling manifest itself. don't have any regrets. you made the right decision, you followed your heart. you may miss home, but when you want to go back look into his eyes. i know his stare brings you home girl!
2007-01-28 14:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he feels the same way and would make the same sacrifices then yes.
2007-01-28 14:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get along well, he respects you, and you continue to pursue your college education, I would think you're doing fine.
2007-01-28 14:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by amyg11ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes unless you are having second thoughts
2007-01-28 14:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋