I am a very frustrated divorced wife. I did everything right in court and followed the laws while my X continues to walk all over the "system" I have quickly learned that it is far to easy to get away with things and he takes full advantage. What is a court order for if you continue to blantantly ignore it. I have had it. Part of me wishes to rise above it but I really feel like he needs to take responsibility for his actions. He gets every priviledge of his son with no consequence, I continue to suffer with the hardship of financial straint. Doesn't he understand that by hurting me financialy it is also hurting his own son! Please help me prepare for battle in the legal system where I have seen no action in my case. PS No money for Lawyer. I did the trial etc.. all by myself.
2007-01-28 14:31:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to get a lawyer for this kind of action. you just have no knowledge of laws and court savory
2007-01-28 14:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he won't take "no" for an answer. He sounds, frankly, like a stalker or someone who needs to control you and believes that nobody has any say over him.
Be very careful (if I am right, anyway). If he messes up AT ALL (meaning breaks laws) document it and report it to the police. It will help you build your case. Meanwhile... well, listen to your intuition, whatever you do, but if your intuition tells you to, have family members check up on you regularly.
Has he ever tried to isolate you? Has he ever tried to control the finances, things like that? Make all the decisions? Wanted to know where you were every second of the day? If so, he is a dangerous man and very possibly violent.
The fact that you've divorced and ended up with no money (while he ostensibly has plenty) suggests strongly that he does try everything to control you. Be careful!
By the way, you have a right to an attorney. Ask the court to appoint you one.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 14:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mother also and I have two boys by two different men and I have never been married. Life is not easy when you have noone to lean on. First thing I must ask you is Are you a religious woman? The reason why I asked is because by the grace of God I have done fine. Only one of my kids father's pay child support and what I receive from him is tax on what I pay for my son. The other father is practically homeless and lives in Dothan, Alabama and I have not heard from him at all and we don't need him. I know that the legal system ain't worth **** but sometimes you have to put that faith in GOD and I promise he will not put no more on you than you can bare. He gave you five senses please use them.Don't worry about him he will get his. Your main concern is raising your son to the best of your ability. Getting yourself together and showing him that you don't need him and go on with your life. That means if you have to get two jobs, go back to school something to keep you busy and trust me everything will fall into place. I went back to school got many degrees and now I am doing excellent and me and my boys and my new man are doing just fine living large and incharge. Life is what you make it. If you dwell on what hasn't happen then you will only have a one track mind on that you will bring yourself down and I know that you don't want that for your little boy. Please stop dwelling on what he is doing do what you need to do as a parent and I promise everything will be fine if you just have faith!
2007-01-28 14:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by doodie315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you wrote, seems he must not be paying the child support. You need to contact the state agency in charge of CS. Most states designate the Atty General for CS. Contact them, they will take care of the problem. You shouldn't beed a lawyer in this matter. The AG's office will take care of the problem.
The AG's office will not go after your Ex until you make it known that he isn't paying. So, let them know.
As far as the visitation, continue to allow him to have his scheduled visits. Not paying child support does not give you the right to stop the visitation. If you do, then you will both be held in contempt for not following a judge's orders. It isn't fair, but you're better to go into this showing that you continued to follow the orders even when you ex did not.
2007-01-28 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make call and you will find one and your husband will have to pay it you need a court order for child support so they go after him for payment or they take his driver lic its up to him start asked for waver from the court so you dont have to pay good luck
2007-01-28 14:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋