My spouse and I have been through so much during our 3 years of marriage. He has been caught repeatedly with text messages and email and has asked for forgiveness so many times over. Now he wants to do the right thing and I don't want to be married anymore. What to do?
2007-01-28 14:26:54 · 10 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave its about time you make yourself happy...
2007-01-28 14:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel the way that you do. He has abused your trust and now you cannot trust him anymore. That would be enough to put even the best relationships to the breaking point. I think, however, you are there--at your limit.
If he truly wanted to do the right thing, he would have done it by now. And, he is "banking" on you to back down and take him back. I say, don't do it this time; leave him--and mean it. He is nothing but trouble. He doesn't wish to be married either, otherwise, he wouldn't keep playing around. Make your life a lot easier in the long run and end this charade. It will be very hard for a while, but hang in there. You will make it. You deserve happiness and a great relationship that is loving and caring and from a man who truly wants and deserves you. What you have isn't a marriage--it is toxic and it is time to end it. Good luck and God Bless You.
2007-01-28 15:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by prettymomofthree2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did make a commitment and if he wants to try you should at least give it a chance. I know in my marriage there a lot of times (sometimes they last months) that I don't want to be married anymore. But I made a commitment to stick with it and I want to honor that. Give him a chance and give it time. Love is a wierd thing that can grow very faint but still be there.
2007-01-28 14:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and help for you marriage and work on it before giving up on it completely... Your marriage deseves another chance before you give up... You also may need counseling and help to deal with the pain and rejection that you feel... Here comes lots of hugs your way and i wish you the best. If you need to seperate to sort out your feelings for a bit then do so but please dont rush into divorce just yet!
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2007-01-28 14:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe in saving the marriage. hopefully this time he is really willing to change for the better.
but if you are not willing to be married anymore, then what else can be done? it takes two to tango. you have to pray for some guidance.
follow your heart. just make sure that you will take responsibility for your actions. and hopefully not regret them.
2007-01-28 14:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a marriage counselor and try to get things straighten out and then decide if it not worth saving.. The therapist will help you sort through your feelings and you will come out with your answer.
2007-01-28 14:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question." I don't want to be married anymore." You do not love him. Move on.
2007-01-28 17:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enough said........... its time to go! you let him know thats not how the game of love is played. your fed up and aint too much he can do about it now. tell him to listen to R. Kelly's song when a womans fed up!
2007-01-28 14:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to have a good relationship if you don't trust him. if you feel you can trust him or what to try to trust him again, go to counseling. if not, you are within your right to get out of the relationship. he violated that trust.
2007-01-28 14:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives....God bless ya
2007-01-28 14:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋