I have a teenage son that definitely pushes everyone ---- especially his mother ---- to the limit. I'd like to hear from perhaps people who were defiant teenagers . What made you turn the corner ???? Also from parents that are going through the same thing . What works ? What doesn't work ??????
2007-01-28 14:14:31 · 7 answers · asked by burlingtony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was once a defiant teen and am now helping my mother deal with my young, defiant, pregnant-16 year old sister. Not sure how bad your situation is but we have resorted to sending her to boot camp, this of course was reached through mutual compromise. The discipline you use on your child has to be decisive and at the same time filled with the promise for positive results. Love and affection is also crucial, it may hurt when they push themselves off you or do and say things that make you feel microscopic, yet it will be they who find themselves alone in a corner one day wondering what life will be like without you; then is when they'll start to regret the way the behave towards the ones that love them the most. Do not say or even show any signs of giving up on them, never let them have it their "wrong" way, and do NOT go for more than a whole day without communicating with him/her. Wish you the best of luck....................
2007-01-28 14:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
except disrespect and defiance, what crimes has she dedicated? What specifically has she achieved? For all all of us recognize, her anger is thoroughly justified and easily the outcome of a foul concern. it isn't likely that her anger spontaneously manifested with none form of reason. more desirable in all probability, it is the outcome of years of issues of the influential people in her life (i.e. you etc). What have you ever been doing to attempt to strengthen the relationship? Counseling is a good concept, yet even if it isn't coupled with differences at domicile then it is a few thing reminiscent of saying -no longer my duty. Please fix her.- i don't have suspected that approach a lot if it weren't for the actual incontrovertible actuality that you're searching for an adolescent boot camp to take her off your palms. it is lifelike so that you'll be drained once you've been managing this for a lengthy time period. nonetheless, what are the probabilities of a group of strangers accomplishing your daughter better than you could? per chance you should study why she has complications jointly with her anger. some people have plenty to be indignant about. some people were under no circumstances taught the right way of managing troublesome situations. it is extremely no longer all her fault regardless of the actuality that. per chance her disrespect is the outcome of no longer seeing some thing well worth respecting. per chance her defiance is her reaction to unfair situations or regulations. i wager speaking jointly with her is the perfect component you may do.
2016-10-16 05:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly! All thgese other books and so called experts saying to avoid conflict with a teen are just giving them license to act up more. We have a 15 year old son who is being extremely defiant and disrespectful. We simply gave him a list of set rules and expectations, explained that these are followed by his two brothers to get rewards, and that until he stops the bad behaviours and starts doing as we say he does not get any priveledges like his brothers do! Plain and simple, and how long it lasts is totally dependant on how long he takes to wake up and start behaving. Do not bargain with any child like this, do not give them anything hoping it will spark them to behave well - they are brats because we gave them everything too easily to begin with, and lastly be firm and fair without ever showing any sign of weakness. Tough love is what these kids need more than ever, or they will be way worse and dependant on us or society forever.
2013-09-22 07:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by malicman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your teenager is probably going through a rough time and doesn't want to involve anybody. Just leave him alone basically and show him that no matter what he does your always going to be there for him. Like if he gets himself into a lot of trouble, just sit down and talk calmly to him, figure out why he did it. Don't scream at him and chastise him, most teenagers already know that they did wrong and are yelling at themselves for doing it in the first place.
2007-01-28 14:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was defiant. My father sat me down and explained that he wan't going to tolerate certain behaviors anymore, and I needed to grow up and be more responsible. I was not able to apply for my driver's license until I was 17 because of my behavior, and it really made me turn myself around. My parents didn't react with anger. They just wanted to help me understand that I was being a huge idiot. They didn't humiliate me or insult me ever. I ended up loving and respecting them more through the whole thing.
2007-01-28 14:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by drbuns 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guide him always with Love & affection.
2007-01-28 14:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop spoiling the kid
2007-01-28 14:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋