im 16 years old,& engaged.Im worried about rent and things like that,i just want us to be happy.what do i do?

Question

how do i make sure we'll be able to make it,financially?

im still in school , homeschooled and a senior.Im working 40hrs a week, and make $7.00 dollars an hour

im still in school , homeschooled and a senior.Im working 40hrs a week, and make $7.00 dollars an hour. Im waiting to get married at least for another year maybe a year and a half :) We love eachother so much, we've known eachother all our lives.These means so much to me :)

he's 17, about to be 18...so everyone knows.he works 40 hrs a week as well and makes $7.90

I'm one of Jehovah's witnesses and we dont beleive in sex before marriage. We can't move in together, that would put to much of a temptaion in front of the 2 of us. I'll be out of school in 6 months

Answer 1

You poor poor dear. E-mail me in a few years and tell me if it was the right decision. I already know the answer.

Answer 2

It's difficult for most adults to make it with no education and work experience, it will be much harder for you because you haven't yet graduated from high school nor have you ever been independent of your parents. You're going head first into an adult role when you've really just become a teenager.

You both need to develop a plan together for financial success and that would begin with writing a five year plan immediately before you walk down the aisle. You need to write down a realistic budget, who's responsible for what and so on. You should honestly begin working now so you have some savings to do as you wish with.

A good idea would be to obtain part-time/full-time jobs at a university, live in married student housing and obtain college degrees in 4-years. At least you'll have a foundation and a chance. Married student housing is suprisingly affordable and comes with a lot of amenities you wouldn't be able to afford otherwise like cable, internet and utilities included.

Good Luck! Getting married at 16 is rare and more than likely discouraged by many but it's your life and you can do what you want if you can support yourself financially.You both will need each other to lean on for emotional support during the transition.

Answer 3

Am not going to be like others and tell you that you are wrong for wanting to be married since now days most women just sleep with someone for 12 years have 3 kids and he never think about marriage, but what i will say is take time to learn more about you getting married too young can cause problems because the way you are at 16 might not be the same when you turn 18. if he loves you then he will wait til you fininsh school and start working and so on. at that age its more like a promise to wanna be together and in this day in time love can't be full of many things thats not always what you dreamed it to be . Make sure he is willing to work also. sit and start planing goals for yourself then in a year or so go back and see if you are still were you wanna be. am not going to lie its hard work . and that doesn't even count if you have kids because that puts alot of stuff on hold
i wish you the best

Answer 4

Honey, you're still young. Please think it over and over if you really want to be married in a very young age. I'll say no, you won't make it....why??? My husband and I are 31 and have 3 wonderful kids but barely make it at the month's end.

We made a HUGE mistake...we had a child when we were 17. And he was still in College. We ended up depending on his parents for support. We had to scrap everything we had. He had to join the Army just so we can relieve his father from helping us. And now, we're still in the military but can still barely make it, but medical and benefits are good. It's really hard when you start young. We've been in a long haul....15yrs to be exact. But I stuck with him and stayed loyal to him. Supported him all the way. I'm glad I did coz we both love each other very very much. I just wish we waited a couple of yrs before we had a child and plan our future like me going to college and working and saving before getting married.

so please, my dear, think it over. Are you ready? Rents here are very high for a food server or a store associate. ($600 for a studio)Food can be budgeted real well...can skip and lose some weight. but with kids??? skipping meals is not a very good idea. ($100/person a week) so for the two of you, you'll need at least $1,600 a month. Make sure you have a high paying job(like $20/hr?) so you two can be happy. You know, when you two ended up broke for a week or so, you'll be fighting about finances and stuff and I don't know if you'll stick with him for long. Work and save up thousands of money before getting married. Marriage isn't always pleasant y'know.

Answer 5

I started living on my own for the first time when i was 18. Even then, my parents helped me out. I got a job but at certain times needed a bit of helping out. However, the responsibility that comes with having to pay your own bills & being on your own is a completly new & hard experience. At first you only think of how cool it would be to finally be on your own, the freedom, being your own boss etc. But then you realise it is not a walk in the park. The point i'm trying to make is that financial responsibilities can be very stressful. And when you're so young and going at it for the first time as a couple, the stress could be even greater. You're so young & have a lot of things to learn. Trust me! at 20 i finally out grew the 'i know everything i need to know now' phase only to realise that there are a lot of harsh realities that I'm yet to realise. Before you start living together, keep in mind the road ahead of you is a steep climb. You're very young, most probably in a job you can't make a real future in, never lived on your own b4 & married! Being unable to tackle the other stresses in your new life could take a toll on your marriage. I'm not going to come to a conclusion. But do think about all of this before you make any decisions.
good luck & tc

Answer 6

Want to be happy -- why are you not still in school and learning? 16 is no time to think about being married. It is a time to experience all the wonderful things that you can before you have to be an adult. Finances - the only finances you should have to worry about (if you are a girl) is how much is ok to spend on mascara and nice undies -- not how much rent, utilities etc. cost. You should be worried if this is the path you are taking. Without education you cannot get a decent job -- heck, even with education you can't always get a decent job. You need to be in school. I feel so badly for you. 16 and engaged -- absolutely not.

Answer 7

wait to getmarried. 7.00 an hour is not enough to afford anything. I don't make much more and I am raising my daughter after eaving my husband of 18yrs. We were also very young when we got married. Go to college first. If your love is meant to be waitng won't matter. Experience some of life first or you will regret it. At 16 even if you are very mature it takes a lot more than love to make a marriage work. Without college you will be doing low paying jobs for ever and struggling forever. It is hard and there is not a lot of fun involved. good luck

Answer 8

engagement is a big step in life and sometimes it may look good at first but eventualy it will catch up with you. take it day by day dont rush it and dont feel u need to be the perfect couple give eachother space to grow and understand each other. i am 17 i got engaged when i was 15 to a girl who was 14 and now 16 and things have not been well not saying yours will be the same way as mine im just saying take it by day if you 2 love each other as much as u are vowing to each other it will work out life has mysterious ways of showing you what 2 do. just enjoy eachother while you have eachother because if someday down the road you split you wont regret not spending time together and it may help you learn more about each other and dont listen to people who say ur 2 young belive me ur not its you right if u love some one that much show people i listened to people all the time say i was 2 young but you know what it didnt matter what they thought it mattered what i though and its the same for you only you can permit someone to insult or hurt you. i hope it helps and if i can say one thing dont let anyone get in ur way of eachother especially in-laws belive me my mother in-law got envollved and thats why its so hard for me and my former fiance to work things out.

Answer 9

ARE YOU CRAZY!!!! YOU ARE 16 and you are engaged!!! Don't get married until after college, otherwise every thing gets very hard very quickly and then you won't be able to handle it. I guarantee it . I know a girl who got married at 17 and now she is miserable, because she can't go to college, she has two kids and a husband who has lost interest in the whole thing. And she can't get divorced because she doesn't have the money to do it. Please listen to your parents, or another responsible adults they have wisdom and experience that you don't have so they can help you, they know because they have done those things you are worried about. You could always just live together until you are in a situation to get married, I know a couple that lived together for ten years and then got married, and they are perfectly happy, but live together until you are 18, you still can spend every waking moment together, just don't get married so young!!! I beg you to look at this, without your feelings and make a choice. (This doesn't mean that you still can't be engaged, just don't tie the knot yet). Good Luck, use your wisdom and make a wise choice for you and your fiance.

Answer 10

You're in for big trouble!
Didn't your parents say you go to school first?

Sit down with your mate and make a list of the good and the bad about getting into your current situation. Add also the possibility of having a baby - which then would increase your expenses, plus the stress of getting up on weird hours to tend with the baby.

If in the end the negatives turn out the winner - you should think a lot more times before doing it. Remember, do not pick up a rock and hit yourself with it....

Why not wait....finish your studies - you'll earn more when you do...

Answer 11

What is the sound of a 35-year-old married woman having a conniption fit?

*GAAAAAKKKK* *ACKKKK* *TWWHPPPTTTT*

You're SIXTEEN and engaged?! My dear little girl, what kind of acid are you dropping??!!! Where are your PARENTS' minds that they allowed this to happen?!

You are FAR too young to get married. You are far too young to be engaged. You should be worrying about your college applications, SATs, and your driving test, not about marriage and children of your own!

How old is your "fiance," may I ask? Is he sixteen as well?

Also, at sixteen, you CAN'T get married in most states without parental consent until you're eighteen.

But for heaven's sake, I beg you to re-consider. Being married is not a way out of a miserable family situation, and not a way to run away from your problems. Even if you marry at 18, you'll still probably end up severely curtailing your financial and educational opportunities.