Have a hard time making friends?

Question

Does anyone else in their early to mid 20s have a hard time making friends? Sometimes I feel like taking out a classified ad in the paper. It's so hard to meet people if you don't go to church and don't do something like scrapbooking or aerobics class or social groups like Kiwanis or Rotary or whatever. I consider myself intelligent, creative, and passionate, and I find that most people I meet have very different values and hobbies than I do. It's tough to find common ground. So how do you make friends? I'm especially interested in hearing from creative types--you will know what I mean about the need for fellowship with others like us. But regardless, I'd appreciate any input.

Answer 1

I had the same problem as well, now I have gotten over it. Now, every where I go I make friends. My problem was that I was insecure about my self, I never knew until one day I was sitting at home on a Saturday night thinking. Just act like your self, people will like you. I'm the type of person who very crazy and silly. But I use to hide it. you don't have to have something in common to be friends with someone. All of my friends don't have things in common, just me and my best friend have things in common. Just wait the right friend will come around. Don't just think it's you. Just have a positive attitude, you will be amaze of the out come.

Answer 2

Well did you ever make any friends in college? What bout high school friends? And why don't you try the activities listed above? I'm sure your open-minded. Try making friends at work. Make a "splash" at your next business party. Or just raise the roof! Try visiting old friends and maybe you'll make new ones. I know I have. If you meet people that you don't want to be friends with because of their different values/hobbies, then I see why you have trouble making new friends. Converse with them on why they believe they should do this, or why they like that so much, etc. Maybe you will find something you have in common with them. A cup is useful for its emptiness and readiness to accept new things. Let your mind be like that.... but don't empty too much of it out to where it isn't stable anymore lol.

Answer 3

Sorry, I'm about 10 years younger than you and stuck in a little world called high school.. and also having trouble making friends. I'd give you any advice if I could, but... I'm not much better off. I think I'm also rather intelligent, creative, and .. maybe a little too passionate, but a lot of the people at my school seem to have different interests and ideals than me. There aren't many clubs at my school that interest me, and the ones that I've joined aren't too active.

Well I hope someone will be able to give you some helpful advice, I could use some too.

Answer 4

Stop searching. I'm sure you have friends from school, always keep in touch with them. They are a good source to meeting new friends and reliable ones at that. Not just some person you meet from somewhere. Your family and your present group of friends will give you the emotional satisfaction you'll ever need, believe me. Maybe you want to meet someone new or someone unique, then by all means go out more often and meet more people. Be more ready with your smile and be more helpful with people around you. Make it a habit to think of others ahead of yourself and you will notice that people will be attracted to you.

Answer 5

Believe me everybody feels that way sometimes. I guess making friends isn't as easy as abc but you could try. People are usually nice to others who are also nice to them. You don't need to dress up or play roles to fit in. Just put a smile on your face and be your self. If you like talking about certain things, find people who have the same interests as you. And don't be put off with people who don't necessarily get along with you. Remember, it's impossible that a particular person is liked by everybody. Think back at this dilemma. Why do want to have friends? Is it to have someone to hang out with? Be a reflection of that someone you want to find and people myt actually find you. Be that person who is nice to hang out with, chill just for laughs. Or are you the type who wants to simply find a friedn who'll listen? Then try to be the listener. People may like that and they'll return you the favor of listening to u. and shyness is a fear. face your fears. the only thing to be scared about is fear itself. extra tips: take up some public speaking classes, and join an org. it'll boost your confidence level. It worked for me. The key is to keep focused. If you want something, be prepared to work hard for the skills.

Answer 6

I'm 19, just started university and am new to the city, ít's been sooo hard for me to make friends, it seems like everyone I meet already has friends, they grew up here and have friends from high school. It's hard, I've tried everything anyone says (clubs, be outgoing, wait, don't wait, everything) and I still end up alone every weekend. I have some friends and meet new people all the time but they forget about me...

Answer 7

You don't have to have a lot of things in common with someone to be friends with them. If you can hold a conversation with someone they can be you friend. Sometimes it's more interesting to be friends with someone who is NOT like you.

Answer 8

Hang out with old high school and college friends. I had a hard time making riends, and now I have them along with enemies.

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