Conflict of religion? =( Raising a family?

Question

I was raised in a Missionary Baptist church. My dad's parents raised HIM in the same church.
My boyfriend and I are very serious and probably getting engaged soon. However, he was raised in the Church of Christ. The two churches aren't very different, but he told me he doesn't feel comfortable going to my church. Church is a huge deal to my parents (not so much to his) and they're concerned about what will happen when we're married. How do I deal with this situation? Especially once we have kids?

Answer 1

Religion is the absolute WORST of man's inventions! It is quite possible and likely that you could be a very good person, but still not be affiliated with ANY church.

Answer 2

My wife and I grew up attending different denominations, and we choose to look for churches from neither denomination, but non-denoms or churches that aren't so worried about their "tag".

And "Church of Christ" can actually mean a couple of things, depending on what part of the country you're in. In either case though, depending on how strict his congregation is, he may actually feel in some ways less of (or not even) a Christian if he goes somewhere that doesn't view baptism as the "seal" of a person's salvation. Not to mention that your parents must be totally freaked out that you're considering being with a COC kid, because Baptists and COC's traditionally don't get along very well.

I'll tell you this, the two of you had better REALLY talk that one through, before you decide to get married, because if you two aren't together on the course of your family in this area before you get married, it will be some tearful times later.

Answer 3

Why don't you meet on neutral ground and start going to a different church altogether. There are many different denominations out there.

Now, I'm an atheist, but I believe all the christian religions believe basically the same things. Why not try something new.

It's like this. Every man out there likes to BBQ. But, we all have our specifics ways that we do it. How we prepare the meat, build the fire, cook the meat, etc. Even though we all do it a but differently, we have the same mission. The different christian denominations are the same way.

And, according to your beliefs, when you are married, you will leave your family, and he his, and start your own. You're parents are not supposed to have a say in how you do things as a family. What church you decide to attend is no different.

Answer 4

How can this be a problem? There are Jews with Christians or Christians with Hindis trying to make a marriage work! If either church is comfortable for you, switch to your boyfriend's church for his sake. Don't let your parents dictate your choice. If you really don't want to switch, then you and your boyfriend should both sit down with the pastors at each respective church to discuss possible areas of disagreement and how much of an issue it really is.

Answer 5

Take your parents out of the equation , If you are adult enough to get married you are adult enough to make a decision based on what is good between you and your mate. If you have to bow down to what your parents want it will cause grief in other aspects of your marriage also..... and that goes for him too. On top of that they are both CHRISTIAN RELIGIONS they are not that different as far as basics are concerned only in church specifics that are all different because they have to change the little things to have their own church.

Answer 6

Here is a idea...both of you step of from religion, the very idea that the two divide your family's is a red flag. How about this...both go to a nondenominational church that teaches you about the importance of a relationship with Christ Jesus. Without that many don't know how to have or develop one with each other. Religion? What about the word of God? uncomplicated and transforming and will set you free from religious ties.

Answer 7

You are right to want to get this settled before marriage. You're going to have to decide how important this issue is to you. If you have family and social roots in your church, it could be very difficult to change - that is one issue. But a more important issue is core beliefs. Look at the statement of faith from his church - is it something you can agree with? If not, in my book, it's a deal-breaker - unless you're willing to raise kids who believe things you think are wrong.

Answer 8

Missy; church is the body of Christ. They place you go to meet and worship in the Lord is for fellowship.When you are a child of God; the church is in your heart; so where you go to fellowship should not change what is in your heart. Ask God for guideance and leave it in his hands. Remember that the person you choose to marry is head of the household and choosing the wrong person moves down the wrong path and away from Gods good grace. Your children are in your hands and as a good parent you want the best for their souls.

Answer 9

Your focus is so close to being on target. Who cares about which church you go to. (i know the Missionary Baptists) What you should worry about is what YOU believe! There is no church that does it correct. None of them! Least of all Missionary Baptists. (that ought to get me a few thumbs down) Remember that the church is not the building! It's the people! I don't want to give you a sense that Miss Bapt, are cultish. They are close to what's necessary. They just believe that if your not on their team you won't receive any heavenly gifts. Tell that to Billy Grahm! I know I was one of em for a few years. I just couldn't stand saying Catholics are going to hell, and great men of God are going to be disappointed just because they are not Miss. Bapt.'s.

Answer 10

This is a decision you and your future hubby need to make together. Just the two of you, not your parents. However, it is important that you came to an agreement BEFORE you get married. Then it's settled, and when you do have children, maybe it won't be a problem.

This is a topic you should discuss in pre-martial counseling. It is a very important decision.

Many Blessings!

Answer 11

Given the point of cult-like immersion my kin have of their non secular beliefs, even if any of them had personalities that were someway unique, i am going to't see myself debasing my personal moral ideas only to feign conception in a contradictory conception equipment in effortless words for the sake of pandering on to their infantile conception equipment. As such, once someone is raised less than a particular conception equipment, there's a huge tendency to assume that each and every inculcated human being will deliberately carry quick, those similar beliefs for some thing of their foreseeable lifespan. It facilitates that i became compelled through their xtian love, to be raised in 18 diverse "homes" with various of degrees of dedication to a plethora of diverse religions in the previous I left the bouncing round cycle for good when I reached 20.