i am only 18 yrs old my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion but i dont feel like it is the best option..he says that he cant afford to buy us a place to live and raise a baby as well..we used a condom it broke..and i took the morning after pill it didnt work..therefore i think that god has blessed us with this baby..but i do realize i have my whole life ahead of me i still have to get through school...im afraid to tell my parents they will prob kick me out of the house...he said he would support either decision i make but im afraid he will leave..and i would much rather keep my baby than him..what should i do?
2007-01-28 13:43:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is something that you and your b/f need to sit down and make together. I would even tell my parents and involve them, they could be more supportive than you think.
Ash-Good Luck
2007-01-28 13:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get an abortion. It isn't the end of the world - these things happen and continue to happen. Have trust in your parents - they've given you everything; they're there to give you support when you need it most. Of all people they deserve to know - it's their grandchild :)!
I have heard so many horror stories about abortions, and the emotional scarring of the mothers who underwent them. I don't understand how people can lie directly to a mother's face and tell them that its just a minor procedure. It's very traumatic, and it will only complicate the situation further. Please, not only for the sake of the baby, but for your own sake, do not do this to yourself.
A child is a wonderful blessing; you should be proud of your little one. Many of the previous posts do so much better than I in relating the beauty of motherhood. I know a young couple who are trying so hard to have a child, and they would do anything to have a baby. Like you said, you still have your whole life ahead of you; you will find a way, and your child will thank you so much for it. Reflect often on the love you two will have for each other :)!
2007-01-28 17:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't believe the condom broke. I have been there! Anyway, you said that you would much rather keep the baby than him, then that is what you should do. A child is the most wonderful thing in this world! If your parents will do what you say they will do, then good. Your child doesn't need to be around such rotten people. You can do it on your own. You sound like a smart and strong individual. Just think of how proud you will make your child when he/she grows up knowing how wonderful of a mother you are and not to mention the self pride you will have knowing that you did it all by yourself! I did it for 4 yrs, by myself. I thought it was going to be me and my son against the world forever. Now I have an 8 month old daughter and I am getting married in Sept. Good things come to good people. Just wait, you'll see!
2007-01-28 13:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by jaytayk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take a pregnacy test for one to be sure. If you feel an abortion is not right then don't do it. If you are pregnant it is his child to but it is your body.
You should explain to your parents what happened, it's best they know now instead of later. You were using protection and that is best that they could ask for other than not having sex at all. Your parents are there for a reason they will be able to help you in some way. They may be disappointed but I don't think they should kick you out.
Your boyfriend sounds genuine, but you should definatly start talking about alot of things, just incase you are pregant. In the end if he does leave, you know he won't be worth it. You should try and continue with school because with out it there is little oppurtunity for you. You could work out a work-study program during the day and just hope your or his parents can watch the baby during the day if you are pregnant. This way you have money and education to get you and your child farther in life. You will never know unless you talk to him, your parents, his parents, and for sure take a pregancy test.
2007-01-28 13:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to see a doctor to see if you are pregnant and ask if taking the morning after pill could hurt the baby. Then tell your parents. Then get a counselor to help you make decisions. Abortion and keeping the baby are not the only choices. You could carry this baby to term for an infertile and very grateful adoptive couple.
2007-01-28 13:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by CapeCodGram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how scared you are to tell your parents, you know they are going to find out eventually. Pregnancy is not something you can hide. Don't get an abortion. The baby did not ask to be brought into the world, and deserves a fair chance at life. If you can't keep the baby, then you can put it up for adoption. There are alot of parents out there who want kids, but are unable to have any.
2007-01-28 21:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well first off im 18 and was in pretty much the same situation as u....! yeah its really scary but ill tell u what when u feel that baby move in ur stomach for the first time its the most amazing thing ever! i found out i was pregnant at the beginning of this school year (my senior year!!) and i didnt know what to do! i hid it from my parents because i knew they would kill me. my boyfriend was mad because he already has a 2 year old! but this is how i look at it...if ur mature enough to make the desicion to have sex then ur mature enough to take the responsibilites. u might agree with abortion or not but if u do go look at abortion sights....its disgusting! i mean i never really had an opinion on abortion until i got pregnant! its ur decision but YOU have to make it....no one else...because YOU will live with ur choice not ur mom or dad or boyfriend! and you know what lots of girls have babies at a young age and are still successful!! i was just accpeted to college and plan to become and NICU nurse....im not sayin it will be easy but its possible and personally i think its worth it! everytime i feel my baby boy move in my tummy i thank GOd for helping make the right choice!
2007-01-28 15:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you worried about school when there is all this online education, home schooling etc,...You can get any education you want while pregnant.What would stop you?
When you both made the decision to have sex, well there is always the risk of well, what has happened and you have to accept the responsibility.
thats life,full of all kinds of surprises that we have to accept and determine what we will do next.
It is up to you as to whether you have the baby or not. It isn't up to anyone else. you have a growing dependant now who you have to protect and nurture.And you have to take care of your health also so you will be strong when the baby is due.
You can study all kinds of things when you are pregnant. There was a woman I knew who studied for her medical license while pregnant. She is now a physician.
Get medical care right away and there will be people who will help you. Look up parent websites and family websites. pregnancy websites. but get medical care and lower your stress level. Eat enough protein and no caffiene no sugar etc,...
2007-01-28 14:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents as soon as possible. You need to get prenatal care ASAP. Especially after taking the morning after pill. A baby is life changing and if you feel like you want it, then you should raise it. There are great parents out there that can't have a baby. Maybe adoption is a road you should look on.
2007-01-28 14:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by carrie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who had an abortion at 17. It will ruin your life! I spent 10 years after mine trying to mask my shame with drugs, alcohol, and more sex. You have inside of you the incredible opportunity to give life to another human being. Go to your local crisis pregnancy center and they can help or send me a personal email and I will try to help you. God loves you. SOme people have written some cruel things to you but let me tell you that He loves us despite what we do. Please don't do this to your baby and most importantly to yourself. I love you and will be praying for you and your baby. There are so many options. If you are unsure, then err on the side of caution. Contact me if you want and I can tell you more about my situation. I have been there. I know what the fear is all about! Many blessings and prayers to you!
2007-01-28 14:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by sle4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids from two different fathers i was a single mother for a while. It is rough, if I survived it anyone can. And you know what? A child is only as expensive as you allow it to be. It is essentially your decision but to be honest it is YOUR baby. If you want it, KEEP IT. Most parents will be mad and disappointed but in the end if they are good parents they will be there for you. God Bless and good Luck.
2007-01-28 15:04:25 · answer #11 · answered by Kacey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋