with me,called me every minute he had,wanted me to meet his family, told me he loved me & couldnt be w/o me.But he had a depression problem & I helped him through ALOT,like his feelings of suicide, it was an ongoing issue.He finally confided in me he had a child w/ a one night stand bf we met.He wanted nothing to do them,bc he didnt want a child w/her,he didnt care or"respect".Eventually he wanted to meet the child,& I told him he of course he should.Well, he developed feelings for the mom and ended our relationship.But whats worst was,she called me & told me he told her that he wasnt attracted to me & that he never loved me.When I confronted him,he said some of it was true some wasnt.I believe he said these things bc he wanted to be with her.But how can he do that to someone that was there for them through so much.He hurt me so badly. I feel i'm very attractive,im sorry,but this girl is trash, looks&personality.How could he do this to me,I feel used,degrated&feel very low about myself
2007-01-28 13:41:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
sounds like a prick either way. he either loved you, and lied about it, or didn't love you in the first place. give yourself a break. your better than all that. anyone is better than being treated like that. you should not worry. he probably just is playing the field, and wants to be liked my this trash bag... you make him want you back, then don't let him have you. show him your better than that. they always come crawling back...always. good luck girl... your awsome...heck...any girl is awsome. we got the power!
2007-01-28 13:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing! I dont pity you though because we all have been thru this nonsense in some way or fashion. He may have been in cahoots with this woman the ENTIRE time and is just now presenting it to you, kind of like playing games. Maybe he didnt, I dont know, but if your relationship was strong, he couldnt have just switched up on you like that and go along with the mother of his child. But then again you dont know what kind of long distance relationship people have under their collars. Some people are really good at making things appear differently. Since there is a child involved, they can be used for advantage as well
You should just forget him, apparently he had some depression and suicide, so hes a lil coo coo and he might be coo coo and stupid enough to go with this other woman. And as far as the looks and personality, you dont know what she is telling this guy, you are a woman so you should know about these things. As long as you value yourself, he would realize what a dumbass he was and he may be crawling back. There is no need to psychoanalyze this character, because hes a lost cause...
Good Luck!
2007-01-28 13:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mia, sometime you will meet this type in life. Remember he was in a state of depression when you took him on and gave him your all. It may have been a mistake to mix romance with therapy. But occasionally that is what happens. His association with you was that you were his ticket to wellness. If there were side benefits well that was a bonus for him.
Despite the other girls appearance Trashy or not, you are better off without this problem being.
Let her wallow in his crap, as she will, because depression is not something that just goes away permanently. One day she will find herself trying to deal with his irrational beahviour just like you did. Just make sure when she tosses him out that you are not on his "I need you to rescue me list".
Move on Girl, you were used, recognize it and start the repair process and find someone that loves and cares for you and is not out to use you as a stepping stone either up or down the ladder.
Your attractive you say, you are kind and considerate and don't sound the vengful type despite the trauma you are dealing with from rejection. Can I give you my number?
2007-01-28 14:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor dear! What a total jerk!! The only thing I can tell you is to move on. Don't let this situation make you feel bad about yourself it happens to the best of us. I was cheated on after I was with someone for four years and it made my self esteem plummet. Eventually I just told myself that even Haley Barry was cheated on LOL I know that sounds silly but it really helped me. Worry about YOURSELF right now. Do things that make YOU feel good. Surround yourself with positive people and stay tough. It will take time but you will get over it eventually and when you look back on it you will realize how much better off you are.
2007-01-28 13:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Amaya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds very familiar. I dated a man who acted like he couldn't get enough of me and then once I fianally let down my gaurd he said he wasn't "ready for a relationship". We dated for 6 months. After the next girl broke up with him he talked to me and I asked him what the deal had been with me and he said I wasn't his "body type" What a crock! It took him 6 months to figure this out? Now I am dating someone very wonderful and I am much smarter about the game players out there.
Be glad it didn't work out! The guy was a jerk!
2007-01-28 13:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by zogetta3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what goes on behind closed doors. He will continue to do it over and over if you stay in the relationship.
2007-01-28 13:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, this guy is a loser.
2007-01-28 13:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋