I have a sister that will not get a job she is able to work but just lazy, she has lost her place live and is now at my house every day, I'm trying hard here to deal with this.
Wondering how you would deal with this type of family problem.
2007-01-28 13:36:45 · 20 answers · asked by radday5 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You and I have much in common. I'm going through the same thing. She is getting a little to comfortable, eats like a horse. I'm going to tell her soon that her recovery is over. Been here since October. I'm giving her till the end of February and it's time for her to start looking for job. She has to be gone by the end of July. I think that is very fair, seeing that she is 52 years of age. I've raised two kids already. I could go on and on. It's very difficult, but you can't just put them on the street. Family can take advantage. Drives me nuts. Good luck with your situation.
2007-01-28 13:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds mean but the more you help some one like this out ..the less they'll do because you always take them in & feel sorry for them..try tough love but stick to it & if it was my sister I would give her a newspaper everyday opened to the job section..& directions to the front door..Good Luck !!
2007-01-28 21:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get at her and tell her to either get in a job or go find a hotel(in a nice way ofcourse) because she is running up the bills and I cant support you forever sorry.
2007-01-28 21:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew H. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that. well, could you contact people in the know and find her a job? would she go? Otherwise, you might have to just lay your cards on the table w/her. something like "sis, I love you but I have a family life to live and you need to get your stuff together".
2007-01-28 21:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would indeed be very hard for a person to tell a sibling that he/she is overstaying his/her welcome already. on one hand, you are expected to be understanding and supportive and all that patience is a virtue stuff. on the other hand, someone has to inform her that she has to start living her life just as everybody does...i'd go with the second one -- but i'll probably write down and rehearse my speech cause i surely would not want to hurt her feelings, for all i know, there might be something else going on inside her other than a terminal case of laziness.
2007-01-28 21:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most of the other answers get a job or hit the road to nowheresville... i have had the same problem b4 with some un named family member and thats the way u gotta do it! being nice only gets u taken advantage of!!!
2007-01-28 21:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by slightly disturbed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her like it is. Get a job or get out. If she doesnt get a job change the locks and kick her out. She needs to grow up!
2007-01-28 21:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go out and get a job.
2007-01-28 21:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by claidifl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard being that it is a sibling but sometimes by allowing this we are only enabling this behavior. obviously she cannot set goals for herself so help her set some. (ie; i will help you find a place to stay if you agree to get a job and support yourself). talk to your parents. i wish you luck i have the same problem but only it is my father-in-law.
2007-01-28 21:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by nakita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she really need to find a job and quit being ao lazy.
2007-01-28 21:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋