I have a daughter who is 16 and she is more with the cheerleaders and athletes which makes sense because she is a cheerleader and an athlete.
My other daughter is 14 and she is more with the rockers, or the "freaks" which I find fine because they are nice kids, well the ones she hangs out with.
A party is coming up at my house and I am worried what should I do if their is a conflict between the two groups. At school, the two clicks have issues what should I do if there are problems at my house or should I just let them pick friends that they both are friends with.
2007-01-28 13:30:15 · 13 answers · asked by herminegranger2003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would throw two separate partys!
2007-01-28 13:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by xoxoDewtYxoxo 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Throw one party, and use this as an opporunity to allow the kids to get to know each other. I think you will all be pleasantly surprised (as will they) how much fun they can all have together.
I remember going to events and retreats in high school and becoming friends with some of the most unexpected people.
Of course, this requires adult supervision and candid talks with your daughters, as well as laying some ground rules. No name calling, no nasty remarks, no making fun of others, etc. Let them know that this is their chance (and their friends' chances) to show they are mature, reasonable people who can enjoy parties.
And whatever you do, do NOT got into this expecting problems or assuming the worst. Give them a chance!
2007-01-28 14:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them pick which friends they like, but make it VERY clear - so they can make it very clear to those friends - that if ANY conflict starts, you with throw those who started it out, as well as anyone else who trys to continue the crap. And once out, they won't be coming back in.
Your daughters are likely smart girls - they'll choose people who won't conflict - but don't be suprised to find that the party splits into two parties.
But, you may get lucky - sometimes, they overlook their differences and get along for this one event - they find they have a lot more in common than they thought.
2007-01-28 14:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One party, two areas. Give the freaks the basement/family room and the cheerleaders the living room. They will naturally seperate, BUT this way each of your daughters has choice in the setup, etc.
Choice #2 is two parties. When the cheerleader is having her party, the other daughters can sleepover at a friends house
Last thing you want is a girl rumble!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 14:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have 2 different parties and send the one you aren't having the party for to their friends house so they don't have to be around that group good luck and god bless
2007-01-29 02:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two different parties, or have a talk with them all first. I myslef like the (freak) kind of ppl they are much icer and not snobby. I listen to icp music which is wonderful, and i have wonderful firends, when i was in high school 10 years ago i was a prep , not good i was stuck up for the most part. good luck .rem no BEER lol
2007-01-28 13:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_love45648 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Me and my sister have that problem my mom hates it.
I am going to have a sweet 16.
but i have hardcore friends.
My Sister is gonna have a debu.
she has gangster friends.
We are having the party at the same time.
It is going to be lame.
Have it a different times.
2007-01-29 04:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by xMercedesx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These two people are around my age (14). Usually, kids at that age don't really care about clicks anymore.
Stop being so overprotective and let the kids meet new people.
2007-01-28 16:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by ... 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they can't behave break up the party and send everyone home. Best of luck.
2007-01-28 13:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say u let them plan the people who come. jUST GIVE THEM A WARNING THAT THE THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN THE PARTY WILL BE THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES.
2007-01-29 01:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mujju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋